We are moving in with his in laws?

Question

any advice on how to handle things if she starts pushing too much. I've got a few ideas, just don't want to hurt her feelings or make her not like me. No rude answers either please. Thanks

Answer 1

i have a pushy MIL as well. just pick your fights wisely and know when to say no. but you are living under her roof and some rules are going to stick. best of luck

Answer 2

His in-laws?? Wouldn't that make them your parents? Or did you mean your in-laws/his parents?  

I am going to assume you meant your in-laws. yeah, been there, done that...won't ever do it again.  And it's not b/c I don't love my in-laws...I do. They are great people, very open and honest, and are great grandparents. BUT, when you live in someone else's home, it's hard to feel "at home" or comfortable. You are always watching what you do...don't want to offend or do something wrong. It makes it very hard to relax.  It won't be the same as living in a place that is yours, b/c you can't really put things where you would prefer...b/c it's NOT your home. ya know?

But, you have to do what you have to do.  To make the best of this situation, you will just have to respect her rules and the order of how things are run in her home...b/c it is her home. =)  The best thing for you to do, is before you move in (preferable) or right after you move in, sit down and talk to her. Find out what she expects, and tell her that if you offend her, it will be completely unintentional.  It will take some adjusting, but it can be done...civilly. =)

Answer 3

I really think you need to give  " moving in with in laws"  a lot of thought . It could be very stressful for everyone involved...I'm sure their intentions are good..they want to help you but it might cause more damage then it's worth...I think families need there space and their own privacy..

Answer 4

living with in laws is always a huge mistake, not to mention what it says about you. which is that you both are too young to be in a relationship or your too irresponsible to manage your own lives.

Answer 5

I am confused, my dear sweet friend, because "his inlaws" would be your relatives, right?  But, I would say if you move into somebody else's home, then you give up a lot of rights to say much of anything because it is not your house.  I would say try to live independently for awhile.  but, if she pushes a lot, just say, "Thank you so much for your opinions.  I know you give me your opinion because you love me.  I will always think about what you offer me in counsel and love."  I hope my little opinion and counseling helps you my sweet friend.  Good luck ..... Sunny Summer