We are on the first steps of adopting a older child, my friends want to give us a shower, is this appropiate?

Question

The child will probably be 7 years or older. Is a shower appropriate for this? What kind of things do people give and stuff?

Answer 1

Yes, yes, yes!!!    congratulations!  And how wonderful of your friends to want to do this for you!

Answer 2

Absolutely!!  I think its wonderful that they want to help out.  You are going to need clothes, toys, a bed set, etc.  Congrats and best of luck!!

Answer 3

Sure its appropriate!! You will need stuff - toys. books, computer, tv, stereo,  all the kinds of stuff you would have bought this child if you had had them all of the 7 years of thier life. You will need clothes(ask friends to give gift certificates cause you wont know the correct sizes) and to decorate the childs room. There are all kinds of stuff people could buy: for girls: barbies, bratz, board games, stuffed animals, books, coloring books, crayons, play doh, paint , markers, scissors, construction paper and for boys add sports equipment, basketballs, baseballs, skates, skateboards, GI Joe, the list is endless!!

Oh and thanks for adopting an older child- it will truly make a huge difference in thier life!!!

Answer 4

Thats really nice of your friends.

i think its a great idea.

you are going to need a lot of stuff and so is the child!!

aww how nice!!! best wishes

Answer 5

We had a shower when we adopted our girls at 7 & 10.  It was wonderful & gave everyone a chance to celebrate with us.  It helped the girls to feel welcomed and loved.  

It's a great idea.  When you are referred a specific child, let them throw a shower!

SG

Answer 6

Sure, you will need so much.  Bedding, toys, movies, games,  over the counter kid medicines (people don't think about that one!), if you don't already have bedroom furniture this would be a great one for the grandparents to chip in with.  Gift cards!!!  Since you don't know exactly how old the child will be or what size these are great for when you get the child you can just take the cards and go shopping, plus then they get to help pick out what they like!  Something else that might be fun for a kid around 7 would be like zoo or park or movie passes!  Restaurant gift cards would be great too that way you can just enjoy being a family and not stress over dinner so much at first.  

Good Luck!

Answer 7

First off, I really commend you..not alot of older children are adopted from what I hear..but they all need loving parents and stable homes..

I think your friends are the best kind, and I agree that this party should be more of a welcome to the family kind of thing..I also think this party should only be given when the child arrives and is SETTLED (this is already a hectic time)... why have a party without the guest of honor???

If the party is given a week or two after the child arrives, she/ he will feel appreciated and special knowing that the WHOLE gang wants to meet them and give them special gifts...it is a perfect way to say " Hi! You are welcome in our family, and we're estatic you're here!"

Good Luck

Answer 8

aaaaaaaaaaa nope

Answer 9

It sounds great. Find out the age and gender. Then look at Toys "R" Us. Com and go under the age group and see what is appropriate and if possible, ask the kid what he/she wants! Also clothes make great gifts. Find out the child's size.

Answer 10

It's very appropriate. It doesn't even have to be considered a shower, maybe a "welcome to our lives" kind of event. People should understand that this will be like having a child to you and I think it's a great idea.

Answer 11

A shower is always appropriate.  Find some of the things the child likes. What is his nationality and how much of the culture does he remember. Would he like things that remind him of it ?  What is his favorite sport,  favorite color. What about dogs, big or small, cats what colors. Then the gifts can be for his room and the shower can be putting the room together.

Answer 12

my mom adopted my sister when she was 9 years old, because my sister came from a group home (foster care system failed for her) she had NOTHING.

i threw a huge adoption party, she got clothes mostly and shoes. that sort of thing, things she needed.

i would put a list of NEEDS on the invitation that way people can get things the child needs rather than a bunch of junk.

Answer 13

Of cource it is infact you should throw a HUGE party for your soon to be.  

Of cource lots of clothes, bedding stuff, find out what kinds of thing this child likes and put it on a registry.

Answer 14

I think it's a fabulous idea! :o)

your friends are just trying to help and you should let them...it could be more like a birthday party kind of thing (if it's going to happen when he/she comes), or like a "welcome to the family" thing (like the other person on here said). You will be needing clothing-find out, if you can, what size the child wears or at least make sure people give you gift receipts so you can exchange things if need be; you will also need bed sheets and blankets, toys, learning materials, arts and crafts type stuff, school supplies, shoes, and maybe even different dishes and/or cups that might help the child feel special in their new home. You could also have people get you decorative stuff for the child's bedroom and bathroom-towels, pictures or things for the walls, rugs, maybe a desk and chair to do homework.

the point is, there's all kinds of things that friends and family could help pitch in with and I think you should definitely go for it!!!

good luck! and congrats!!