We are protective of our Daughter?

Question

Hi..............................Regardin... children and nudity what are your opinions.

My wife and I have both a son and a daughter. They are both aged within a year of each other. Our son is 8, our daughter is 9.

We never allow our daughter to see another man naked. She has never seen her younger brother naked. My wife and I have no restrictions with our son seeing his older sister naked. Our son has a p***s but our daughter has a v****a an internal organ. We see no reason to overhide her. There is nothing there for our son to see only a slit. He doesn't mind. When they shower together we make sure he wears his briefs in order not to offen her. We talked to our son on this subject and he doesn't mind.

If this was reversed our daughter would see something wonderful and wonder what it was.

What are your views on this. Has your 9 year old daughter ever seen a naked male before.

Answer 1

When I was a child, my brother and I (about 13 months apart) used to bathe together, etc. As very young children, I don't see anything wrong, but at 8 and 9 years old, I think there is. There is no reason for your daughter to see a naked male (even her brother at this age) but on the same side, there is no reason for your son at this age to shower with his sister.  

I can see being over protective with your daughter, but I don't think you should descriminate. You should be equally protective with your son.  I think at this age they should not be bathing together.  If they were 6 or so, that's one thing, but 9 is awfully close to those double-digit ages.

I don't know. It is personal opinion, but I would probably stop them from bathing together and put an end to your son beng able to see her naked because there's no reason to. He's about to start getting interested in girls pretty soon and I think being lax in this area is asking for trouble.

Answer 2

they should not shower together.that is wrong.

and no a 9 year old girl shouldnt see a naked male.

same goes to the boy.he shouldnt see a naked girl.

respect your daughters privacy.she will soon develop b*****s and will then wonder why she can no longer shower with her brother.she will grow up thinkng it is normal.stop it at once.it is ridiculous for the poor girl.they should have stopped when they were 3 and 2 years old.

Answer 3

It's OK for your daughter to see your son naked, because they are related. But they shouldn't be showering together because one might feel their privacy is being invaded. My daughters a 4 and they don't shower together anymore. It ended when they turned 3. Soon she will develop b*****s and it is not normal for a  girl to wear a shirt in the shower. She will feel very uncomfortable having to shower with her brother will her new development. So please, tell them it is not normal to shower together and that they should stop because if they don't, when she gets older and gets married or gets a boyfriend....she'll think showering togther with people is normal.

Answer 4

You two are twisted.

Answer 5

That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.  You can't be for real.

Answer 6

You are being way overprotective. Teaching your kids in this manner can result in serious personal issues later in life for your daughter. You should be teaching them both about their bodies and the differences between boys and girls. There are plenty of age-appropriate books that will help with this.

Answer 7

I'm 12 and I've never seen a boy or man naked! U r sick U should have stoped the showering together a long time ago!

Answer 8

WHY ARE YOU HAVING YOUR KIDS SHOWER TOGETHER???..... your writing shows tons of run on sentences and grammatical errors.  Sounds like this is a joke.

Answer 9

"Our son has a p***s but our daughter has a v****a an internal organ."

Who cares whats internal or external. You're not overprotecting your daughter. You should be doing the same for your son. He should not be allowed to see your daughter naked.

Ofcourse he doesn't mind.

They are too old to be bathing together.

Answer 10

I think there is nothing wrong with nudity and this is a great time to allow them to be comfortable with their bodies.  There is nothing wrong with a p***s(plus it's harder to clean when wearing briefs).

  In my opinion if you specifically tell her there is something wrong with seeing a naked man then she is going to be extremely curious and want to see one at some point.  I'd think better her brother then in high school or college when it's pretty much impossible to just be naked, but rather has to be related to s*x.

  Also seems like to would do damage to the brother because he is being told that he is ugly while his sister is not.

  I do not see anything wrong with a brother and sister showering together(except that it may be more comfortable by themselves).  I think allowing them to run around the house naked should be healthy and keep them from thinking nudity is something to be embarrassed about.

Answer 11

This is obviously a joke.

Go study or something...

Answer 12

I'm not sure a p***s is a wonderful thing, but I think they are a bit too old to be showering together. I don't see a reason why she shouldn't be aware of the fact boys and girls are different and know why. She will eventually start her period-are you going to let her younger brother in on that too? I don't think he should be seeing his older sister naked at this age-it's fine when they are 3 and 5, but at this point they should probably not be seeing each other naked...just my opinion

Answer 13

y the heck are they showering together....and both will see opposite s*x organs sometime in their life....

Answer 14

Wow, you sounds really strict and overprotective.

Answer 15

I think they are too old to be showering with any one.. As for his organs, One day she will know what it is and what its used for, that day has not come. As for right now you are teaching her it's ok to be naked in front of clothed guys. And your teaching him it's ok to look at naked girls. It doesn't bother him now, because he doesn't know yet, but the lessons are still there. They are old enough to shower alone and have separate rooms

Answer 16

Somehow, your e-mail doesn't sound like it was written by an adult.

But, if true, then you are committing a serious error by having the children shower together, and even seeing each other in their underclothes, let alone naked.  An accidental visual experience is one thing, but regular appearances are correctly taboo.

You also have a strange male-superiority complex.

Answer 17

Wow!  I can just hear you when they get to be teenagers.....

"My son had s*x with six girls, so he's a REAL MAN.  My daughter had s*x with her boyfriend....what a s**t."

Answer 18

My kids have seen each other naked since they were little and therefore think nothing of each others parts.  By making a big deal about his private parts will only make your daughter more curious and your son self conscious.  They're going to see it one day whether you like it or not!