We argue all the time..what can i do?

Question

my husband and i fight all the time and he just told me today that he hates me and has never been in love with me then when he calms down he says im sorry and i was just mad.does he really mean it? Is he trying to tell me but he just feels sorry for me and apologizes hes also addicted to marijuana and he is very angry when doesn't have any.He has said this to me plenty of times and takes it back he knows how it makes me feel but he does it anyway. He also leaves to go to his parents house when we argue and spends the night. They dont help our situation.They usually just tell him to leave me alone because in my opinion they want his money What can i do to improve our relationship HELP im really ready to give up

Answer 1

my boyfriend does this all the time when hes mad he says so many mean things then he always apologizes and tells me it was only because he was mad

also i would recommend you to make him stop smoking weed

Answer 2

During an argument people will generally say the most hurtful things. When he apologizes later is it after he has gotten his marijuana? Sounds like he has an addiction and is taking it out on you when he doesn't have any.

If he truly loves you I would give him an ultimatum. The drugs or me? I was in a similar situation and that's exactly what I did. I heard please don't leave me etc... but you need to stick to your guns. You will help him if he stops but if he continues you will be helping yourself by leaving.  

Answer 3

give up that guy has problems and its an unhealthy marriage no offense

Answer 4

He is a sociopath, and unhealthy.

From what I see, you guys probably have roller coasters for ups and downs, and if I'm right, leave.

Answer 5

Ok

1.Never say that anyone is addicted to anything, if he found out do u really think he'll be happy.

2.Take some time to listen to each other.... why do u guys argue all the time?

Answer 6

trust me when I say this, I know he loves you :) men just say those things when they are mad because they are purposely trying to hurt us. I moved from Canada to Australia for my husband and when we use to fight he use to say "why don't you move back to Canada" ..and it would hurt me so much because I left a lot behind for him. He is a little better now but he does mock me and still say things that he knows are going to hurt me. I'm not sure why men are like that I've learned to just walk away before it gets to that point. Maybe you have mild depression??? I went to the doctor when I was ready to give up on my marriage and he said I could have mild depression so I gave it a shot and ever since then I have been a new person. When he says **** like that it honestly doesn't bother me nearly as much as it use to. I tell him to shut up and I go do something I enjoy and he ends up coming to me to apoligize!! something to consider!! :) Hang in there!! he does love you!!