We broke up, and now we miss each other. Should we get back together? (its not that obvious of a situation)

Question

Me and my girlfriend broke up last month and ended a 1.5 year relationship. Last night we had a serious conversation about how we both miss each other as a couple, but that we know that some things never change and what bothered us before will probably get back at us later.

Since then I can't get my mind off of her. I couldn't sleep last night. My first thaught right now is: "Well if we miss each other so much, why the h**l are we looking for excuses to not get back together?"

I'm all confused... Should we get back together? I know that our relationship isn't meant to last forever but maybe we just weren't ready to let each other go.

Please help!

Answer 1

It is natural to miss someone you loved and to feel wistful about the breakup, but it doesn't always mean you should get back together.

You say you know why you broke up: good!  Has that situation changed, or can it be renegotiated so that it's no longer a factor?  If yes, then perhaps getting back together stands a chance of working.  If no, then you definitely should NOT get back together, because it will just prolong the agony.

People break up for practical reasons usually.  Unless those reasons are dealt with and fixed, it is healthiest if they plow through the feelings of loss, grief and regret, and stay broken up until they can meet someone new.

Answer 2

Just say like it is, tell it that you want to come back. What do you have to lose?  

Answer 3

Why do you know that your realtionship with her isn't meant to last forever?

Answer 4

Yes-so sweet.

Answer 5

She cheated on you before, and she'll do it again.  I can't really say I blame her though, you're fat.  Just be ready for it when it comes.

Answer 6

Don't get back together. YOU BROKE UP FOR A REASON. And you're right, things are not going to change.

You are going through withdrawl and it hurts. Just be strong and keep away from her. You will never get over her and move on if you keep talking to her. Both of you probably deserve better anyway.

Answer 7

If you are searching for a long term relationship that will be going somewhere then getting back together with her would not be the best of plans.  You just admitted that you don't see it lasting forever. What you lose out on is time! The time that you could have spent looking for and being with another person who will make you just as happy or even more so and in a relationship that will actually progress.