We broke up I plan to say goodbye before I leave what do you think of this?

Question

Ok long story short. My ex and I were once inseperable. I loved her and so on and so forth. I decided I was going to college in Atlanta, Georgia she decided that she was going to a college close by. This would be moving over 700 miles away from home. We had big dreams that included each other and we had planned to persue them. We were both accepted into our schools we both come from families of low income levels about the same. I ended up getting a ton of scholarships because of my involvement. She didn't recieve enough. She became depressed and felt as if I couldn't understand her and be there for her emotionally as much as I tried. She continued to be depressed. We spoke and tried to work things out and decided that if she couldn't go we'd have a long distance relationship. However a week later I flew to Atlanta to visit my new school for a couple of days and the night before I came home we had a long talk and I tried to comfort her but she said she couldn't be happy for me because she wanted me to be miserable too. Mind you I love her. The next day while I was flying home I stopped at a North Carolina Airport she texed and broke up with me.

I haven't really spoken to her since and I don't intend to really. She broke my heart. But the night before I go I want to go and say goodbye to her and her family and let her know I still care about her. What do you think about this?

Answer 1

let it go man your going to atlanta......need i say moore

Answer 2

Sounds good

Answer 3

If you still feel anything for her you have got to make sure that she knows. get her with you or vice versa. you don't want to regret not doing anything about it.

If you don't really care that much anymore then maybe a polite phonecall or letter would be more appropriate.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

I think the idea of closure is really nice actually, and its nice that to hear you want it. I'm sorry about what happened, honestly I think you're better of, and it's good this happened. She's obviously not a good support system, and you need support at this time, you're moving far away and you're going to have so many new experiences. I think after you get closure, it will be easier for you to move on. You sound very mature, too mature for someone who breaks up over text

Answer 5

Isn't it "texted?"  Oh well...any way.

Okay, she's hurt.  You still loved her.  You were leaving anyway.  Then she tries to do the only thing to give her some power/consolation over you guys' new status.  Then, even though you're getting everything you want, your pride hurts because she one-up'd you and broke it off.  At least she did it, she didn't say "...ah honey, don't worry, I still love you and we'll be 700 miles apart and I promise I won't even look at another guy..." She said what needed to be said - that for now, it's over.  You guys may write another chapter later on, but for now it's done so you both can focus on what is here and now and what you need to look forward to.  Had the shoe been on the other foot, maybe you'd have reacted the same way, maybe??,,,

Yes, by all means, go by and pay your regards to her and her family.  Thank her for letting you have the wings to fly toward your future - or something lame like that. Or you can simply let her know how wonderful your time with her was and that you will miss her terribly.  

Answer 6

talk to her. she might also be afraid u will leave her for someone else. i think she is happy for u but she is stress and some jealous cuz she also wants to b successful and she might feel threat hing buy it. its not ur fault she'll get over it and hopefully it won't b to late for her. ur a good guy do ur part so at least when u look back u know u did all ur best to try to make it work. good luck

Answer 7

Probably not too good of an idea, but might be OK if you have a relationship with her family.  She sounds like big trouble and you can make new and better relationships at your new college.  Just my take, but I would run not walk away from her!!

Answer 8

I think your plans to say goodbye are fine.  It's too bad she couldn't be more supportive toward you.

Answer 9

I think that would be great but you know what long distance relationships don't work. I think you two should see other people and when you get back see if you two still have feelings for each other. Then you can get back together

Answer 10

You should absolutely say good-bye to her and let her know that even though your lives are taking separate paths right now, you still care for her and wish her the best. The most important thing is 1) stay focused on your future and your education because that foundation will help you through many challenges later and 2) keep loving her but only reach out in ways that are healthy for both of you. If you really love her encourage her to get back on track with her emotional healh and her education. You never know what lies in store for the two of you. You know the old saying,... if you truly love someone set them free and if it's meant to be they will come back to you.