We found someone to take our child, in relation to prevous question. Is it possible tochange birth certificate

Question

This relates to previous question about my wife giving up our 18 month daughter Rebecca for adoption.

We got someone to take her quite quickly. hopefully this will happen quite soon. We really want to get rid of her and enjoy life which has been prison for 18 months

Wondering can birth certificate be changed in anyway. We want to wash our hands of her and really be free.

thanks

Answer 1

You can't change a birth certificate once it has been filed.

I assume you are changing it to say parents unknown so she won't look you up later.

You can amend the birth certificate to say that but again, there would still be an original out there for her to look up.

I would not worry about changing it.

When she is adopted, her certificate will be amended and the new parent information will be placed on it.

That new one is the one she will use for the rest of her life, not yours.

On a side note, my mother is adopted and has an amended certificate and it doesn't say that on it or anything so you can't tell by looking at it that it is not an original.

Just communicate to the new parents.  (You might want to be less abrupt.  You have feelings, yes, but they have been trying forever and may look at your feelings as cold so you might just want to tell them that you have changed your mind, or never wanted to have children, etc.  Just not in such an abrupt way.)

But anyway, communicate with the new parents and explain that you want no future contact and if they choose to inform their daughter of the adoption later to make sure they also tell her that you wish for no contact.

Yes, she might contact you later anyway, but realize that will be 20 years from now.  She will be an adult and will probably be just curious about you.  If she has great adopted parents then she will be grateful to you, not upset at your decision so make sure you pick great parents and don't worry about what she will do in the future.

I realize some people here are being mean.  I am sorry.  I do agree with a few of the comments about sterlization.  You, or your wife, may want to consider getting fixed so this does not happen again.  That is your choice, but again, if you are serious about not wanting to have future children then why put yourselves through the ongoing efforts to use birth control forever.  Birth control is good if you don't want kids right now or if you are trying to space your children out, but if you never want kids and you are serious then birth control is just an extra chore when it would be just easier to get fixed.

Answer 2

Are u sick or what??????

Children are GOD's gift and wealth to us!!!

Do you know how the child would feel when she hear what you as a parent said about her.

Some people pray hard for a child and you have them yet giving up cause you want to "get rif of her"...

What kind of parent are you???

Answer 3

They must go through the legal adoption channels. Once the adoption is finalized a new birth certificate is issued and the original is sealed...in the US at least. Not sure about the UK

Answer 4

please let me and my husband take the baby

me and my husband can get a lawyer to change birth certificate over to us

PLEASE

Answer 5

have u ever heard of vasectamy!

why has it taken this long to decide to adopt her out

and why are u looking for nice answer..

these good jobs u ust have cant be very responsible! cos sounds like neither of u would know it if it punched u in the face

Answer 6

I don't know how it works in the UK but I'd like to wish good luck to her in finding a family that will love her.

Please consider a permanent solution to your birth control problem.

Answer 7

No, I do not think so, so you'll never be totally rid of her. Try an adoption agency, they can handle stuff for you.

Next time, make sure you get your balls cut off first before doing the nasty, if you can't be a real man. People like you make me sick.

Answer 8

Hope this is a joke - cos otherwise you are really sick in the head!

hopefully  - i mean with any luck whilst you get rid of your daughter you could also get rid of the wife's reproductive organs and your testicles to doubly ensure you cannot make such a huge mistake again .

Answer 9

maybe if u didnt want a baby you should have been more protected and used something so u would not get pregnant and why would u give ur baby up a baby is a blessing many good things will come from a baby ur going be missing out on a lot!! well rebecca deserves better than u anyway its like you are just dumping her off! and the birth certificate can not be changed plus when she gets older she might want to know the losers who gave her up for a selfish reason

Answer 10

You made me cry,get a vasectomy if this post is really true

Answer 11

I don't know about the legalities of adoption but  I read your question prior to this one. I pray you found her a loving home. I know alot of people have been really nasty about this  I understand how you feel . I don't agree with how you word it though.  I love children  very much I am a mom of two wonderful boy's  they are my life. But my sister in law recently had a child Unplanned after 16 yrs of marriage her and her husband didnt want children she had been told when she was early in the marriage she couldnt have children . they loved their life baby free. now they have a beautiful little girl 3 wks old and they are really having a hard time with this. I try to be there for her and help as much as I can but they want there old life back. I get the feeling they want out. I feel so bad for them and my little neice. I would take her and love her like my own children and not look back. how can I talk to my sister about this . she is afraid of what other people will think of her, good luck on the adoption. I pray for you and your wife please get fixed. and I hope you let the soon to be loving parents take possession of the baby girl as soon possible. you can let her go live with them now and just finish the paperwork. she  has lost alot of wonderful time with a loving family. she is a gift the best thing you can do for her is give the gift to someone else. good luck to you.

Answer 12

As soon as an adoption if final (usually several months after the child has lived with the adoptive parents), then there is a second birth certificate issued for the child. listing the adoptive parents names as parents.  This is the birth certificate the child will have from here on out.  The original b.c., with your names listed as parents, will be sealed and kept in your state capitol's records department, taking a court order to open in most states.  

Congratulations on making the best decision of your life (and your daughter's!)

Answer 13

I think you are an idiot, if your so career minded and have a live in nanny why the h**l are you asking about a taxi driver licence in Leeds!!!!! i think you are a horrible person for letting other ppl believe there is a child being treated this way. You need to get a life!!!!

Answer 14

this q is so horrible it sounds like you dont care at all you have no heart all you want to do is have a life.i have two children and no life,i would never imagine getting rid of my kids i love them to death.

Answer 15

And as I said in my last response:  GET THAT DOG WIFE OF YOURS SPADED AND CUT OFF YOUR TWIG AND BERRIES!!!!!!!  

Don't want kids?  Solves the problem, doesn't it?  No more "prison" for you!!!(other than whatever you will get in whatever afterlife there is)

That being said, you will need to have a lawyer to make it an official LEGAL adoption.

You pieces of scum will miss that poor little girl when she is gone.  And I hope you both suffer for the rest of your selfish, greedy, pathetic lives.

Answer 16

Once a child's birth has been Registered you cannot change the original entry in the Registers, but I assume that Rebecca is being adopted legally so there will be an adoption certificate in which they may wish to change her first name as well as her surname.

Answer 17

You and your wife are dogs!!!!  You should be ashamed of yourselves, not because you don't want this little girl, but because you have probably put her through 18 months of h**l before deciding to do something!  An abused dog could do better than you!!!!

Answer 18

ok i was judged on here for placing my (at the time) 12 year old brother in foster care, after the death of my parents, but i loved him so much and visited him every day and he stayed over with me a lot. i have four week old triplets and i have never been so horrified at a question on yahoo. i'm sorry if you don't think i am being supprotive but you have to step up to the plate! you made a baby and whether or not she was wanted. you cannot just 'wash your hands' as you term it of your child! she is your flesh and blood! how can you treat her this way? she better off without you!

Answer 19

i have heard that chemical castration is available now askyour gp about it you sick individual

Answer 20

I feel like crying for this child, it is really very sad.  But I will answer your question.  If you are doing this as a legal adoption, and I hope that you are, then all of that will be taken care of through the courts.  Just because you do not love this child, it doesn't absolve you of responsibility, for her safety and welfare.  You say that you have found someone to take her quite quickly.  Well, do you know anything about this person?  Do you know if they are good and responsible people, with good intentions, and not sure that you are able to really judge this, but are you sure they are of good moral character?  You can't just give a child away you know.  The perspective adoptive parents will have to be vetted by social services, they will have to go through legal checks, and there will be a court hearing, to terminate your parental rights, and give custody over to the new parents.  The way you are talking leads me to think you are just going to hand her over to these people without following any legal procedure, and that is very dangerous indeed, and if something should then happen to her, you could be in a lot of trouble for that.  So although you have no love or feelings for her, you really need to take into consideration her safety and do this legally.

Answer 21

l would urge anybody else thinking of answering to look at this posters other questions.  lt's obvious they're not serious.

Answer 22

Aww that is a completely horrid way for you to be talking about your little girl. A child is something you cannot just "get rid of." And no, you cannot change a birth certificate  - unless of course - blood tests can somehow prove that you are not the father.

Maybe it would be a good idea for you to think about having a vasectomy so you can prevent any more unwanted pregnancies happening. Because a lowlife like you obviously does not deserve to be a father, ever! :-/

Answer 23

Your a sicko.

Answer 24

hi, i don't think they can be changed they have a sort of new one my husband was adopted and he has his original berth cert and an adoption cert. also my friend was given parental rights over her friends 5yr old and she kept the same birth cert and just had the court papers for parental rights. hope this helps x i just wont to say i think it is great you have found her a family. i am a married mum of 2 with a crb check and i live in wales if i can help in any way please just ask.

Answer 25

Well if you didnt want a baby why on earth not use contraception and why go through with a pregancy and keep the poor thing for 18 months.

This is sick, and birth certificates cant be changed, so when your little girl comes looking for you when shes an adult, lets hope you have answers for her!

You and your wife are very selfish people and not because you want to give your baby up for adoption, but because of your attitde to your baby.

Answer 26

PLEASE  let the New parents take care of this...  You don't deserve to....  I would truly hope this is some kind of prank, because if not, you need some SERIOUS counseling .......

Answer 27

Whata lucky little girl Rebecca is to be getting rid of parents like you.  I assume that this is a joke, but either way it is very sick.

I pray that you never have a child and breed your stupid reasoning and intellect any further!

Answer 28

This is a wind up!!!!

Answer 29

no you can not but Rebbecca can change her name by deed poll and then she can get lost in the system and have nothing to do with you when your old and sat at home lonely wondering what you daughter is doing she is a lucky girl getting a fresh life hope it works out for her and hope the guilt dose not rip you a part do not chase here later in life your chance is up. she's at a good age she will never now and that's a good thing

Answer 30

okay, unlike others here I will NOT judge you, giving up your daughter is the best for all involved..wish I knew I would LOVE another baby!! No the birth certificate can not be changed, but you can relinquish parental rights over to the couple you have found..I wish the best for ALL concerned.

Answer 31

I can't believe what I just read. That poor baby girl. Please find her a family that will love her and take care of her NOW! That is ridiculous. Why did you wait a year to decide this?