We got married 7 months ago please give me your opinion but don't be harsh...?

Question

i have recently thought of renewing our vows but i have had mixed feelings because it has been so soon. so i thought maybe when we go back home before his deployment back to iraq for the 2nd time . To have something i have written read to our church (the same church we were married in) can i please get every ones opinions on this!

Just a Few months ago we were brought together in this same church.

Family and Friends joined us to celebrate as we began our lives together

we have had our ups and downs

we have grown closer together and we have had our smiles and frowns

we have been through things many couples don't experience, but we have learned to get throught them.

i do not know what god had in store for us.

but i do know that i love you.

i love you not only for you but for the person i have become

and for the stength that you have given me

i want you to know that i will always love you

as a military wife i have learned so much

i have learned how to have love that i never thought was possible and for so many other soldiers

i have learned to have strength and hope and that god has a plan for us and everyone else.

and all wwe can do is hope and pray.

being a military wife has brought me closer and closer to god everyday.

i pray and hope for him to keep my husband and all of our troops safe and strong.

as my husband i want you to know that i love you with all my heart

and no matter how many deployments and times apart er go through i will always love you and be waiting for you.

althought it has been a short time i want to tell you this again

I vow to love you, to cherish you and support you

i vow to be faithful, honest and true

and i vow to be the best wife i can be

i vow to love you till death do us part.

i love you philip

love your wife Shantel

What do you think and is there anything i should change?

thank you

*its not really to renew our vows its just something i want read and then have a prayer to all our troops afterwards

*he has gone to the church since he was a baby. the whole church knows his life story. we would not pay anything and its just something i thought would be nice to have read and the followed by a prayer

*we are together right now but hes supposed to redeploy by the end of the year

**we have gone through a deployment, 4 miscarriages the lose of his dad, him being blown up twice, being moved to germany, lost soldiers who were very close to us, told the chance of us having a baby is 1 in 16 million. the chance of me carrying full term is about 5 %. and many other things so i dont want to hear anything about us being newelweds and not had our ups and downs

Thank you

Answer 1

It's beautiful -- heartfelt and to the point and very concise.  The one thing that bothers me about it is how public it would be to have it read for the entire church.  Maybe it's just me, but some of that is very personal.

I realize that with his deployments, your sacrifices, your losses, your near losses, your ups and downs that you have had a lot of people praying for you -- but shouldn't some of your intimate thoughts be kept personal ... from you and just for him?

My Dad was career Army -- we were very active in church ... but our family life was kept in the family.  So, maybe it's just me, but I think these words would be best told to your husband by you.  I think he will really appreciate it.

Answer 2

I think you should arrange to have prays said in your local church for your husband and all the soldiers and then put that beautiful piece in his kit bag. Imagine what a lift that will give him when he is feeling at his lowest when he has to leave you, then he finds that piece of writing. That will mean more to him than any vowel renewal. Only you know how he feels when he is away and how he will feel when he finds it. Its too personal to share!! good luck and may your god go with you. xx

Answer 3

i say go for it, your an amazing woman you know that? if hes being deployed soon this would be such a huge boost for him, i think it would mean a lot to hear that from you. i cant say from experience because iv never been in the military but i can imagine even though my wife says she loves me id be really worried when im gone that im not meeting her needs. so im sure he thinks about it. its an insecurity that im sure ud be releaving in a big way by doing this.

Answer 4

I think it's a beautiful suggestion,

While I don't support the War per say,

I do support our troops 100%, please give your Husband a

huge hug and kiss from me and tell him thanks for everything

he's doing for us, his selflessness his immeasurable.

P.S. If he wants to send home a Solider about 6'0-6'2" 190lbs

black hair and blue or green eyes about 35 years old,,I would love the troops even more...lol

Just kidding, I think you should do it your suggestion is a beautiful tribute to your life together..go for it

XoXo

Answer 5

Girl go ahead and do it!!! It seems like ur his good luck charm...  

Answer 6

souunds great.

Answer 7

You go girl.  I think it sounds beautiful.

I've been married 20 years and we haven't been through half as much.

Answer 8

I think it is too personal to be read to the whole church.  I think you should run this by your clergy person. Ask him/her if they feel this is appropriate.

It seems rather private to be read to the whole church. I think this is something you should give to hubby privately, in your own handwriting.

Or you may include parts of it in a vow renewal, if you decide to do a vow renewal ceremony.  That is, if your officiant approves.

I just think it is rather private to be read to the whole church. Please ask your clergy person if he/she feels this is appropriate.  Follow his/her advice.

I think you really want a vow renewal.  Nothing wrong with that, though it does seem a bit early in the marriage.  Why not plan a renewal on your 5-year anniversary?

It is appropriate to ask the church for prayer for our troops.  But I don't think reading your personal intimate thoughts to them is appropriate.  In fact, you may find that rather embarrassing, in the long run.

Are you living on or near a military base?  If so, I suggest you join a military wives club.  I suggest that you may find it helpful.

Answer 9

you read it to him, dont let nobody read you feelings for your husband :)

Answer 10

so sorry about the dad and babies adopt and it is the most beautiful thing i have ever read

Answer 11

I would discuss this with your pastor, see what his opinion is and go from there. I am sure he will think it would be a great thing to do. I think so, too. Best of all to you both and God bless.

Answer 12

i think it sounds beautiful. good luck with everything.

Answer 13

You are a wonderful loving wife.Reading your letter of love to your man almost found a tear rolling down my cheek.

Answer 14

Hi.  I don't know if your little edits with the * are part of the first question, or after you read some of the answers.  You ASKED for opinions, so here is mine.

First....thank you to your husband for his service to our country.

Second......that is one of the most beautiful letters I have read.  Extremely well written.

Third.....I totally agree with Suz 123.

Please speak with your pastor/priest/minister before you do this.  I think it is beautiful, but I would do things a little different.  

When the time comes from him to be deployed again, if you want to have a blessing for yourself and the others being deployed, I think that doing this as a part of a worship service would be a very moving.    Sad....but very nice.  Asking for God's hand to keep all the soldiers safe and to come home to their loved ones.

However, I agree with the others.  I think this letter is too personal to be read in front of a congregation.  I guess I am more private.  No one is saying you have not had your ups and downs, and you certainly did not have to share all of that with us.  No one is saying that.  Anyone who watches the news knows what the families go through (my nephew was is Iraq [army] as was about 300 people from my little town's National Guard Unit; as was my good friend's son [army.]  We thank you (the wives) for your support also!

If it was me, I would have the two of you go out for a romantic dinner on a Saturday night.  Read the letter to him.  Then, on Sunday, have your church blessing and perhaps go out to brunch with some family and friends if you want.

That's my opinion.  Obviously, you know your husband....we do not.  I think that most men would prefer to keep something like this between the two of you.  But...if you think he would be pleased to have everyone hear your personal and intimate thoughts...then you should do it!!