We just met 2 weeks and he asked me to take a trip with him ?

Question

he is going through a bad divorce and it will end in a month. He is my boss, he hired me 2 weeks ago(he owns a small shop, I'm the shop assistant).

about one week ago, he started asking me if i have a bf, if i want to go out with him etc. im kinda interested in him. yesterday he told me he wants to escape from the bad divorce and he likes me a lot, he asked me if i want to take a trip with him for a week.

i dont want just a casual thing with him, and his situation is complicated right now, and i think asking me to take a trip with him is too soon, we havent even gone out yet(we planned to but havent made it bcos of his personal situation), just working together all the time. should i just wait to date him until he gets his divorce finished?

Answer 1

I would suggest that you dont date him at all since he's your boss.  Going through a messy divorce huh?  He's looking to get laid, and if you do it your putting your job in jeopardy.  If things don't work out guess who won't work there anymore and be on the unemployment roster?, yep , that's right, YOU.

Just thank him for the invite but let him know that you don't date people that you work with.  Not very smart.  

Or, you could go and find another job somewhere else and then see if he is still interested in dating you or taking you on a trip.  

If your still interested in him then, go for it.  Just remember, he's getting a divorce for a reason.  Think about it.

Maybe it was the fling with his last "assistant" that brought on that divorce.  And where is that "assistant" now?  

Bad idea, very very bad idea to p**p where you eat.  

Answer 2

Yes, I think you should wait. Tell him politely that you'd like to get to know him better. There are 3 issues to think about here. 1) You don't know him very well. 2) He is your boss and you work together. 3) He is still married.

My advice in a nutshell is to wait. Get to know him better. Wait till his divorce is final before starting any kind of relationship with him. This will show you if he is serious about the divorce AND if he is serious about you. Also don't forget that dating your boss can also be a sticky situation... especially if it doesn't work out between you two. So,  don't go on that trip, get to know him better and wait till he gets divorced before starting anything. Good luck!

Answer 3

Jenny don't be so naive and look at the net pic of things.

Here's your boss going thru a divorce and he already wants to tap into another woman and that should be your warning sign.

Don't be stupid and go with this guy. Put him in his place and teach his little weak mind that your not an easy target and want more respect than that.

Answer 4

Take this trip with him and you most likely will be expected to put out, so if you are not ready for that it is best that you do not.  If you are interested in him you need to date him long before you take any trip.  This whole thing could turn out bad because if it does not work out for you guess who will be looking for another job?  Hint, not him.  You really need to think long and hard about mixing business with pleasure.

Answer 5

Don't go near him him untill the divorce is over or you could become a part of it. Dating your boss is a very bad idea.

Answer 6

Im the Police and i say NO

Answer 7

YES! HE is trying it on...its the oldest trick in the book...saying youre having a divorce ..he';s really cheeky asking you to go away with him without even taking you on a date first! Wait till his "divorce" is through.

Answer 8

he knows youll give up on a week vacation. so yeah he just wants s*x. or to murder you.

Answer 9

Jenny!  You need to take the beautiful man and woman relationships very very slowly!  Never rush into man and woman relationships!  Love and caring should be slow and with patiences! Never! Never! Rush into relationships too fast!  

Answer 10

Absolutely not.  #1 he is your boss and if you don't do what he says, he can hold your job over your head.  #2 Not too long ago, a young lady from up north went to work for a gentleman and ended up going away with him after briefly working for him.  He looked pleasant enough, but he ended up killing the girl because she would not sleep with him.  He told the parents that she had taken off with her bf, and took a leave of absence from work.  This went on for months, with the parents trying to reach her.  Finally they realized that she was dead and he had killed her.  

Never go anywhere with a man you do not know well!!!

Answer 11

Im surprised you are asking such a question. I know your heart tells you not to go then why do you ask this question???  Do you really expect anyone of us to tell you to go  with him.

We all might not know each other but every one of us using Y/A do care for each other. Its a much better world in here and thats why every one likes this place. Listen to everyone !!!!

If you decide to go with him then I would say you are the dumbest girl in this planet.  

Answer 12

He is in a huge transitional state and is far from ready for a serious thing, even if he says so.

It takes around 1-2 years AFTER THE DIVORCE HAS COMPLETED for people to have let go of the string attached to the mar rage. He is emotionally wanting a sexual fix, nothing more....even if he says differently or says he's not.

I'd change jobs and go RAELLY fast. You cannot work there. If you attempt to wait this out, he will fire you for someone better. It is the way of things. He wants intimacy, but only the s*x type, because he's still stuck in the marriage emotionally and in reality as well.

The other option: Go back to school full time and work on Saturday and Sunday ts and some evening, to get your degrees: a much better option.

Do NOT be the fool and go with him, even if it by Christmas time. He is looking for closeness, but not commitment.

Answer 13

It's dangerous that he isn't divorced yet, and also dangerous that he's your boss! This has the potential to turn out badly for you - be careful!!

Answer 14

Of course that sounds really romantic, but don't let him use you because he is in a power position being that he is your boss and all. How much do you like your job??? Keep that in mind. No offense, but this sounds like a really ugly situation just waiting to happen. My boss did this same thing to me (except I was 18 at the time and he was 60 and still married) ...my situation was more creepy so I wasn't tempted the  way you are, but you should go with your gut feeling because it seems like your senses are telling you it's probably not a great idea. Don't let a man use his job title to put you in a compromising position. I really feel that women need to be strong about this because we will never be taken seriously in the work place. And I am sure it sounds really romantic to be swept away on some hot vacation, but he's most likely looking for a rebound. DON'T LET HIM FOOL YOU. You're obviously questioning this because you have an inclination that it may not be the best idea....sometimes it's hard to see clearly when you think yo have feeling for someone, but if it's meant to be, then it can wait. Don't rush...

Answer 15

Why not just tell him all this?