We love each other... but my parents?

Question

how do i tell my parents that i love him, his parents r ok wid me but mine will kill me and i know that for 100%

its a cultural thing where the parents decide who the future partner will be for their kids. but sometimes culture is so unfair!

i mean i cant get married to someone i dont know and also who i dont want to know.

we want to do everything perfectly where my parents agree aswel but what if they dont agree? should i just walk out wid him?

Answer 1

Well, aren't you North American (American - Canadian) ?? it's 2008!! Don't allow them to live your life - you've got to do that for yourself as a responsible adult keeping in mind that what you do and who you become is from your choices and not theirs.

If you feel like it is meant between you and your man, stick with that no matter what. No matter what "culture" or race your still an individual.

Answer 2

If you don't live in a country where following your heart will place you in physical danger with your family then you have to decide what is more important to you.  Being a "good daughter" and doing exactly what the culture of another country says you must do or living your life being true to yourself regardless of the personal cost.

introduce him to your family and let them know that there could be a real possibility that you may marry him.  Give them the time to get to know him.  Ultimately, it's your life and the final decision is yours.  Sometimes you have to stand up to your parents to do that.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

i know that your traditions are cultural but i think that you should try sitting your parents down and try to explain to them that you love someone else.  maybe they will understand.

Answer 4

I think you have to marry who you love....NO MATTER WHAT.  It is your life...you are going to be the one with the relationship day-in and day-out....it has to be someone you love.  I am sorry if your parents don't approve.  I know that my parents would only want me to be happy.  Ultimately, it is your life...culture is not as important to me as love with another person.  Love transends all cultures and should bring people together.  Good Luck!

Answer 5

I feel sorry for you that you had to be put in this situation. But if they don't agree then, I dont think you should walk out and leave because thats disrespectful as they only want whats best for you and after all their your parents and you only ever get 1 set of parents. If they disagree try telling them how you feel or discussing that you would be willing to stick to the culture in other ways just not this one because of how you feel..also try the guilt trip.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

yes you should just walk out with him dont let your cultural stand in the way of love  

Answer 7

I've always heard that blood is thicker than water, but love is thicker than blood.  If you really love this guy and don't want to marry whomever your parents choose for you, then I'd say go for it.  Just remember:  It's easier to walk out the door, but harder to walk back through it.  In other words, make sure this is really what you want.

Who knows...they may agree with you, in that it's time to change their cultural beliefs, and be just as accepting as your bf's parents.  You'll never know until you face that 'demon' head-on.  Give them the benefit of the doubt.

God's blessings on you and yours...Always!!

Answer 8

If your over 18, your an adult and can lead your own life.  Follow your heart and be with the man that you love.  You will be miserable the rest of your life if you get put in an arranged marriage.

Answer 9

Be hundred and 1 percent that you love him and he loves you, I understand that parents can disown there children in your position. are you ready and strong enough for that.

I fully agree i wouldn't be able to marry someone i didnt love either

Good luck yeah in your decision