We sent my cat away two months ago and I'm still not over it?

Question

My mother and my sister gave my cat away and told me about it the night before. They made sure I didn't stop them or anything. I don't know how I could have done that, I'm only 16.

My cat was my everything, literally. As lame as that sounds, it's true. I love her so much and I still call her mine. I cry myself to sleep every night because I miss her so much. I have pictures of her and I on my wall and whenever I look at them it brings me to tears. I've tried mailing her new owners but they haven't responded to me.

They called once and ranted on about how she loves them so much and how the father is her favorite, now. I couldn't help but cry and get so sad when I heard that.

I miss her so, so much. I always imagined taking her with me when I moved out of the house. I don't want another cat, the reason they sent her away was because of her hair so I couldn't even get another one if I wanted to. I just want her. And it makes me so sad that she's not here.

I know this sounds so lame and cheesy, but that's just me.

People said that it would take me a week to get over this. Is this even normal? What do you recommend I do? I want to see her so badly but her owners haven't replied, and my mother will not drive out for three hours so that I can see her.

Also, I was really upset when they were taking her so I took her adoption papers and then my sister tugged them away from me and they tore apart. I had a piece of them but she left. Does this mean that those people are not her legal owners and that I can still have her back?

Answer 1

it's not lame at all. it is your mom that is lame and you should tell her so. When this cat was allowed in the ghouse an agreement was reached and a responsibility was taken. The agreement and responsibility was for the duration of your cats life. What is your mom teaching you about responsibility if she cant likve up to hers?

And don't feel lame at all. Im a guy and don't feel lame about this.

Love is love and it doesn't matter whether a human or animal. Love matters,

  Where ever the cat is, you should visit at least once or at least have the new people send you pics so you know your mom told you the truth

I am very sorry

Answer 2

I had the same thing happen to me when I was that age.  You will get over it, it takes time.  I even wrote little letters to him acting like we would meet again one day, tore the letters up and flushed them.

That happened when I was 15 and I am now 55 years old and know exactly how you feel.

Dont let anyone have the papers for her, they might try to have kittens from her, so dont give them any ideas.

Your Mom and Sister had a reason to do this, I dont know why, what comes around goes around.  They are planting sour Lemon seeds and that does not grow up to be anything except sour Lemons.

Can I suggest you ask your Mother if you can get her back and promise to brush her hair daily, and keep it vaccuumed up all the time.  Let her know how much this has upset you and ask if she would like to read these responses.

Think abou it like this, she probably got a better home where the whole family loves her, not just you.

Answer 3

You may never "get over" it - but you will "get through it".  You should talk to a therapist about your sorrow, and perhaps they can help you through it.  Sorrow over an animal can be hard to understand, it is not cheesy or wrong.  There is no set time to get over this, every person and situation is different.  Please do not go see the cat - it will make the separation and situation even harder to get beyond.  

Yes, they are the legal owners.  Your parents are ultimately responsible for the cat, as a 16 year old - you do not "own" the cat, even if they said it was "yours".  If anything happened to it, they - as adults - would be responsible.  The cat now belongs to the new owners, and there is nothing to be done about it because your parents have decided not to have the cat in their house, and it is THEIR house. I am SO sorry for your loss. and encourage you to seek theraputic help to get you beyond this situation.

Answer 4

its completely normal. im so sorry.