We splıt but I mıss hım? Help Please? I dont know what to do?

Question

I fell out of love wıth my bf of two years so ı ended ıt yesterday. But I mıss hım already and I stıll fancy hım even though I dont love hım anymore. What should I do? He stıll loves me. Im hopıng my feelıngs come back but If they dont how do I move on? He was a great bf and I hate myself for fallıng out of love wıth hım cos he dıd nothıng wrong and I feel cheated out of the only real happıness I ever had. What should I do? Im mıserable.

Answer 1

The person you really miss is an independent you.  

Rediscover the value of impressing yourself with interesting personal enrichment opportunities and experiences.

Look in the mirror.  Identify what makes you smile.  Make notes on what you like.  Also list what you would change.  Manicure, pedicure, and hairstyle are a good start.  Have you read any interesting fiction or non fiction lately?  When is the last time you took a serious look at career path and goals?

Do somethings to directly benefit you.  Go some interesting places.  Meet some interesting people who share similar plans.  Are you smiling yet?

Be good to self for a while.  Reward you for being good to yourself.

Answer 2

This happens to everybody! Don't worry babe! You can't FORCE yourself to love him again can you? Be happy you spent 2 happy years with him, and its not like he's going away or anything. You can still be friends. You probably just feel empty and lonely right now. This will continue to happen until you find yourself another guy - a guy who excites you. You'll have to wait for him. Till then, try to get your mind off your past relationship. Do fun stuff, meet friends and hang out! Make yourself as busy as possible! Good luck!

Answer 3

think about why u left him and think about every thing that he did bad and if u think you still like him after all that go for him  life to short to not go for it also remember his point of veiw.  

Answer 4

Perhaps you need to review your definition of love, and discover what love really is. Love isn't something you fall into and out of: that is an emotion called infatuation, which can sometimes accompany love, or sometimes occurs without love.

Real love is no emotion at all. Real love is a choice and a commitment. Love is opening yourself up to someone else, giving of yourself to them selflessly. Being in love means you both care for, open up to, and give of yourselves to one another, not looking for your own gain.

This kind of love is what makes a relationship last. That feeling you had (which I and so many others have experienced too) was doomed to pass. It always does. You can never build a relationship on feeling-love and expect it to last. Because feelings change. That's just what feelings do.

A choice and a commitment doesn't change. What's more is that it can drive our feelings. While on some days you may feel indifferent towards him, if you choose to love him through those days (and he makes the same choice towards you), you will likely find that other days you feel very close, and very in love with him. This choice to love can even endure bad times, arguments, and times when you let one another down.

You said you still 'fancy' him? I'm not totally sure what you mean by that, but you seem to still want to be with him. Don't let your emotions boss you around and ruin your life. Make a choice, take a stand, choose to love. Make your emotions follow your lead, not the other way around. It sounds like following them has so far led you to a miserable situation.

I've seen this work, but it does have to work both ways. Choosing to love only works if the other person chooses back, otherwise it is a miserable one-sided relationship.

I hope this helps. God bless!

Answer 5

Rebounds are natural and probably the toughest part of being in (or in this case, out of) love.  You made a leap from one situation to another.  He sounds like a great guy and might be "The One", though usually when we break up with someone, it's for a good reason. Going back is an instant fix--for awhile, but eventually things end up the same.   Pack up your gear and hitch a ride to the next town.  There's a lot of life yet to live.