Wedding..Bridesmaid?

Question

So me and my fiance were thinking about having people who over the years have made an impact on both of our lives so...Would it be weird to have "older" people to be one of our bridesmaids/groomsmen? Also if so are there any other things that you know of that we can have in the wedding to honor them?

Answer 1

I think groomsmen can be older but it would be a little odd to have some as your bridesmaid that was a pensioner !

It depends how old you mean, a matron of honour can be an older woman providing she looks ok in a suitable dress.

Answer 2

Not at all. You honor those people who you would most like to have "standing up for you" as you make these important promises to God. (That is what a vow is, a promise to God.) Of course there will be people who WILL find it remarkable and make remarks. Don't worry about it, as such remarks only reveal how shallow such people are.  

Answer 3

NO!its absolutely okk to have older people in ur  bridal party!umm you can give a speech thankin them at the end of the reception.

Answer 4

It is your wedding, you can do anything you like, just make sure you both agree on it so there is no fall out.

It is also important to remember that the guests are there to enjoy themselves too.  Loads of people hate going to weddings cos they just stand round like extra's on a film set.  It would be lovely to make people part of your special day.

Answer 5

i think that is a fine idea.  i don't think it is weird to have older people...i think it is unique.  there are no "rules" on ages of bridesmaids and groomsmen.  i know several men that have had their father as their bestman.  also, many people i know have had aunts, etc.  do what YOU want to do, it is your day.  and, i don't believe that the people you have in your wedding are supposed to "cater" to you...they are in your wedding to help you celebrate the union of you and your fiance.  as far as honoring them....i would simply get them a card with their gifts explaining what they mean to you!!!!  good luck!

Answer 6

it would be different bc a brides maid isnt to honor someone its to have that person cater to you and help u out on ur day she's ur right hand woman for the day so havin a older person wouldnt be the worst bt as long as they are up to the challenge and why are u honna honor them? its YOUR wedding about YOU and your huband not the ppl that help u get ready,  

Answer 7

Age irrelevant.  As we have seen here  in this very forum  there are younger bridesmaids who have proven to be  unreliable and not up to the task.  I think it's important to include as many people as  you can who matter to you on this day. Their  job is to be there for you and support you, not to look "pretty" in the photos. Go with your heart on this one.

Answer 8

You can have whomever you want to in your wedding.  If you want to honor them, maybe give a little speech at the dinner thanking them and letting everyone know what makes them special to you and why you asked them to stand up for you.  This is your wedding day and the main focus will be and should be the two of you.  It's nice that you want to share the limelight, but don't over do it.