Wedding Etiquette?

Question

I have a question that is causing a big stupid argument in my family and I want other people's opinions' about it. My sister is engaged and is getting married in September. Her father is not a part of her life so her fiance's parents are footing the bill for the reception. My mom is insisting that certain people be put on the list and my sister doesn't want them to be there. My mom is worried that her friends kids' that are invited will talk about it to the kids' of the other friends that are not invited....I told my sister to look at the list and respectfully decline or accept the people that her and her husband want to be there and that it is there choice. It also is automatically influenced by those who are financially paying for it and since only 100 people can be invited my sister and her husband want to be specific about who gets to come. My mom is offering to pay for the extra ten people who want to come but that according to my sister and I would be rude. What do you think???

Answer 1

That's a tricky one.  I would say to remind mom who's day it is.  She was there once, I'm guessing.  Would she have wanted people telling her who she had to invite?  It's one thing if your sister is seeking her advice on who to invite, but if not, then mom needs to back off.  It's not a good enough reason to invite people because they might hear from other people who were there and know they weren't invited.

Answer 2

your mom is right. she has a right to invite who she wants at the wedding as long as she is paying for them.  your sister should not put your mother in a situation where she cannot invite certain people.