Wedding Gifts?

Question

I'm now planning on a reception for the wedding and not sure about asking guests for gifts. I don't want to go through the process of deciding a gift registry for guests to buy gifts and then returning the gifts not meeting my needs. I'd prefer receiving monetary gifts $$$. It's easier. Is this something etiquette acceptable? How do I put it on the invitation or let my guests know that they don't need to buy gifts, instead they can give me the cash?

Answer 1

it's very rude to say i only want cash!

but you can have an option of contribute to the honeymoon by sending money to this account have someone at the travel agency or a bank to host this there for they just have a check to send they don't even have to get a card!  or some sort of fund!  and that you can put inplace of a registry!!

Answer 2

It is never acceptable etiquette to ask for cash.  People don't HAVE to give you anything at all if they don't want to.

And please don't be one of those brides who doesn't write thank you notes either.  That's extremely rude too.

Answer 3

Don't put anything stating cash preferred - that is tacky.  If you don't list any place you are registered -- folks will most likely give cash or gift cards.  Congrats.

Answer 4

You can't put that on an invite. You will look so bad and frankly if I got an invite with that on it I wouldn't even show up or send a gift of any kind....your messed up.

Answer 5

It is tacky and rude to ask for monetary gifts. And completely unacceptable to put on an invitation. If you do that, people will be talking about your lack of taste for many years. And your husbands family will be mortified! Just register at a couple of places so you have chosen the gift, and you may want to try an on-line registry.

Answer 6

Dont mention gifts at all if you just want money. Most people would be uncomfortable showing up without something so they might get you a card and some cash. But to tell anyone you prefer cash over a gift would be infinitely tacky and rude.

Answer 7

I think its inapporipate to make people give cash.....let each person give what he or she is comfortable giving in.

Answer 8

Guests know they don't NEED to give you gifts. They can choose to give you gifts. You may as well just register somewhere. Asking for cash is very rude. You should be grateful for whatever you get.

Answer 9

Wow that would be totally inappropriate and unclassy if you were to actually put that on the invitation. Sure, most couples would prefer monetary gifts over a toaster but you should let your gifts decide for themselves what they would like to get you.

Answer 10

Do not mention anything about gifts on the invitation.  It's just not the place for such things.  If people ask you about your preferences, you can tell them.

Answer 11

Register for a few things, but also ask for some gift cards, noit cash. Say that You need gift cardds more than actuall gifts because you don't really have need for the things they might want to get you. You might also want to metion that they can get whatever they feel comfortable giving you, because they may not have a lot of money right now. Don't forget everyone wants money and right now everyone seems to need it.

Hope this Helps. =)