Wedding Guest List - who to invite?

Question

Hi All,

Pondering over my guest list for my wedding:

I am 27, and left school a while ago. Some old school friends I have loosly kept in contact with .. although we always proclaim our ever lasting love for each other even though our lives have taken us in seperate directions. Through to joys of facebook I have also recently come back in contact with some other school friends.

My question to you is; even though I dont see much of them at all ... really ... could I or should I invite them to my wedding? I do love them. Although its only thanks to social networking sites that I have come back in contact with them.

Im a bit perplexed as to where to draw the line.

Ta.

Answer 1

invite your family friends and neighbors and co-workers also and your husband's family friends too

Answer 2

Stupid facebook has totally changed social interactions!! Very complicated!

I think you are well within reason to just invite people who are actually involved in your life- not your cyber life, or your past life! So no one you don't still see.

I think people understand that numbers are always an issue.

Answer 3

I was 28 when I got married, and was in a similar situation as to you, regarding guests.

Of course you could invite these friends -- but there are some things to take into consideration. First is the why - why you would want them at your wedding - usually it's a time for family and very close friends - who often know one another. It's amazing how fast the time goes on the wedding day - you barely have time to talk to Aunt Agnes and her kids just to say hello, let alone spend time with long-lost friends. I just think if you want to reconnect with these friends more once you are married, then have them over for tea or a barbecue, for example.

For our wedding, the 'friends' spots were those people with whom I was working with closely at the time, several very close friends from past places of employment with whom I was still in very close touch, and only one friend from highschool and her husband - because I knew they wouldn't feel adrift not knowing anyone else, because it was her home church, and she'd still know others at the wedding aside from me.

In the end, it's your choice obviously. But we grow, and shed friends, and though it's nice to reconnect, it's not the same...

Answer 4

I think you should invite ALL acquaintences....even those who answer your questions at Yahoo.  

I will send you a list of dates that I will be available and you can schedule the wedding around it.  

OK?  

OK!

Answer 5

What does your fiance think about it?  If wedding reception costs are a concern then I'd say don't invite (announce it on your facebook page & post pics after.)  If cost is not a consideration then go ahead & invite them.  GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

Not unless you spend time with these friends, other than Facebook, I wouldn't invite them.  When I got married I had lost touch with many friends that were once close friends.  I did not invite them, I only invited friends that I saw on a personal level outside of work/school, and still had a close connection with.

Family, some co-workers (not all).....once again only the co-workers that I was friends with outside of work, and other friends that I  still had a personal relationship with.

You need to draw the line....it's hard though.   Just think of the friends you have recently reconnected with on Facebook.  If some of them are married, did any of them invite you to their wedding??  Probably not.

Answer 7

If you want to have a big, fabulous wedding reception, where half the people that go you don't even know( far family and all that), go ahead and invite them. But if you want your close friends and family there, there is no need to invite them. Do you and your old friends even hang out? Do you get together and spend time together? You shouldn't invite them just because you feel you have to because they are your old friends and you 'love' them, and speak to them on facebook.  If it were my wedding, I wouldn't invite them.

Answer 8

This is a tough decision, but it mainly depends on you budget and also on how many people you want to have at your wedding. First invite family members, close friends of groom and bride and then see what the head count is and how much is left in your budget for the rest.

Here is some other etiquette questuons.

http://www.brides.com/planning/familygue...

Answer 9

depends on how much you want to spend. Weddings are usually expensive, but if you ahve the money go for it. It will be a great time to reunite with lost friends. If not then thats okay.  they'll understand. if they are your friends.

Answer 10

invite the ones you like the most. lol....or all the ones you can afford to invite.

Answer 11

It depends on your budget. Unless you are wealthy, invite only those with whom you are in close contact on a regular basis.