Wedding Nieces Participants Help!!??

Question

Ok. So i'm finally getting married november 1, 2008. And i'm having this problem with the nieces. My HTB only has one niece and she's 14 so i decided to let her be a junior bridemaid and b/c he didn't have any junior groommen i just changed her title to bridemaid. Now my niece Michelle (who's like 12) has been upset with me but I did make her a reader. Now the issue is I want to make her feel more important so is there another title or job i can give her where she's actually still in the wedding?? The reason I didn't make her a junior bridemaid is b/c i have more nieces (like 5) and now everyone wants to be in the wedding. (And I already have 2 flower girls) could i have them open with a dance or something?? Just give me ideas on what I could have Michelle do and all my other nieces who are asking. Did u have any extra participants in your wedding or are going to? Thanks in advance!! (P.S We may have our theme be the Garden of Eden not sure yet)

Answer 1

you can't please everyone. your niece is part of the wedding already let her stay where she at. you don't need to be stress. if she don't want to be reader put one of your other nieces there and then she want be in the wedding .  I go through these things all the time, I'm a wedding Planner

Good Luck and best wishes

Answer 2

have them act as ushers

help decorating the reception hall

greet guests as they arrive

direct people to certain places

hand out flower petals or buddles

Answer 3

you are going to let this wedding get out of hand here if you dont put your foot down, for one people and family members always get upset if a wedding plan dont go the way they all want it to, and every family member has a different idea from the next one, focus on WHAT YOU WANT! not what the family or children want or you will have a huge expense ontop of the expense you already have! if you really MUST have all the children there ask their parents to pay for their dresses etc tell them that you are already way over budget and cant afford to have lots of children doing one job! if they refuse well tough not your problem! good luck on YOUR DAY x

Answer 4

If young, a ring bearer (does not have to be a boy!), or two.

Hand out programs and greet people at ceremony.

Hand out favors or bubbles at the reception.

We had a small wedding, so we didnt want the kids to outnumber the bridal party! Between both families this is what we did with the nieces and nephews:

Two boys, young: ring bearers

Two girls, young: hand out something at the reception (this was a made-up job, but they seemed happy with the responsibility and they wore matching dresses)

Two girls, pre-teen and teen: hand out programs before ceremony

Two boys, teen: take some videos (this was a made-up job, we didnt really need/want the videos, and they ended up not doing it anyway!)

One boy, young adult: escort grooms mother (his grandmother)

Answer 5

Don't have any kids in your wedding unless you have all of them.  With adults they are understanding but kids just aren't.  I didn't even have kids at my wedding.  I just felt that it is a very adult affair and it is nice for the parents to have a nice night out.  A wedding is very expensive.  I'm sure you want the kids at your wedding and that is your choice but as far as having them in the wedding it should be all or none.

Answer 6

Depending on their ages, can they help pass out the wedding programs before the ceremony, help guests find their table place card for the reception, possibly help the adults set-up the wedding ceremony/reception hall (decorations, favors, etc.) if needed?

Answer 7

I chose not to have any children in my wedding at all.  I knew that if I picked the little girls in the family that I wanted to have in the wedding, the parents of other children would be upset that I didn't pick their kids (mostly because their kids are monsters, but they think they're perfect angels).  Also, there just wasn't enough spots for all the kids in the family to fill.  It may be too late to back out now, but consider not having any children.  No stress over picking people, and no possible crazy happenings and/or drama.