Wedding Party Gathering?

Question

My fiancé and I want to host a get together for our entire wedding party two months prior to the rehearsal date. Kind of like a get acquaintance gathering and cookout to break the ice. Has anyone ever done this? Any ideas? Do I send invitations for the gathering?

Answer 1

i did it and then i had an engagement party months later hosted by my parents so everyone thought i had 2 engagement parties even though i sent out invitations for the bridal party party and said its a party because you are part of our special day. i think people were just kinda put out that we were having events because we were getting married even though the first one was a party for them. so yes send invites and make sure you let people know its honoring them not you as the engaged couple. its a good way for your friends to all meet and mingle so they know who to expect come wedding day and rehearsal.  

Answer 2

A wedding that I was in did something similar to this so we could all meet. It was rather informal, just phone call invitations.

I would say do something where you and fiance can be around a lot in case you are the only two some of your wedding party members know (so you're not in the kitchen preparing things, or whatever). So if you're cooking out (which I think is a great idea, very informal and laid-back), make sure the grill is nearby where people can talk to you or your FH. Have drinks prepared beforehand in a cooler outside. Also, try to avoid any games like beer pong where people tend to partner up to play (of course, you could always organize some sort of tourney of cornhole or beer pong with pre-picked teams). That way no one will be left out.

I would also suggest getting a big table where everyone can sit together, or multiple chairs so everyone will be forced to sit together and chit chat.  

Answer 3

This sounds like an excellent idea! Keep it lowkey. A barbecue sounds like a good idea.  

Answer 4

what a charming idea!  i think a cookout is a great way of doing it, keeps everything casual, people can relax and not have to worry about a dress code or anything other than enjoying the evening.  

personally i would send a note, either by email or post, well in advance and follow it up with a phone call a few weeks later.  just a simple:



john and i thought we would have everyone over to the house for a b.b.q. on [date]. we hope you will keep the evening free and join us for a casual meal and drinks!  

something along that line.  keep your refreshments simple so that you can relax too!  enjoy and have a good time.  

Answer 5

Great idea! Depending on your budget, you can send out invitations and get favors and a theme that matches what you're going to do at your actual wedding (plus it would be really cute).