Wedding Question... please help

Question

Is it customary for bridesmaids to buy their own dresses or is that something the bride does? and If you're sharing the expenses with your fiance how should we do that, what should we both pay for. And we plan on making a joint savings account for our wedding budget. How much money should we aim to save up to? We don't plan on getting married for at least 2 1/2 years but, i was just wondering some things and i figure it's never to early to get answers on questions that we have. Hope you can help. oh and any ideas you have are welcomed. We aren't planning right now but we had a few questions that we wanted answered.

Answer 1

They buy\rent their own.....same as the groomsman...

Answer 2

As a general rule, bridesmaids are responsible for purchasing their own dresses for the wedding, as well as shoes, etc.  When you look at dresses for your maids, please keep their financial situation in mind.  Don't insist that your maids purchase a $500 dress when they're all college students, they won't be able to afford it.  Keep the expenses reasonable, and you'll keep your friends.  And, you can get very nice bridesmaids dresses from $100-150.  Here's an article that describes bridesmaids duties in detail, including that they pay for their wedding clothing.  http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-plann...

As far as sharing the finances, each couple really does it differently.  Some will insist on each person contributing the same amount, others will base it on a percentage of each person's income, still others will look at a fixed amount each month.  As far as how much you should aim at saving, here's a web site where you can put in your zip code, and it will give you what people paid for their weddings, on average.  http://www.costofwedding.com/  It's a great resource, but just remember these figures are averages, some couples paid more, others paid less.  

Good luck to you both!

Answer 3

Congratulations! I wish you both the best!

Planning a wedding or even thinking about planning a wedding can get pretty confusing! The first thing i would do is grab a few Brides magazines, some scissors, some glue, a pencil and a note book, and if your intended is a hands on kind of guy, grab him too. The best way to figure out what you both like and dislike is to sit down together and dream a little! Cut and past things that you love, and carry the note book with you, so you can jot down any random ideas you have. Once you figure out the basics you can shop around for prices.

Your Wedding should reflect you and your soon to be Hubby's taste and style, your interests and most of all it should reflect the love you both share, and the life you are making together! Be creative! You can get a ball park idea of your savings needs if you know whether you prefer a small wedding or a grand affair.

There are lots of good books and web-sites where you can get help with all your planning and questions, try Superweddings.com. I have been cruising their site looking for ideas for my own wedding in a few years! It is actually a renewal of vows and 25th anniversary. We had a super small Wedding all those years ago and now that we are a little more established we are finely treating ourselves. So i know how baffling this stuff can be.

Above all remember to have fun! This is the happiest time of your life!

Answer 4

It is customary for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.  They take on that responsibility when they say yes to being a bridesmaid.  I picked out the color that I wanted my girls to wear but I let them pick out the dress that they liked.  They could pick out what they wanted as long as I liked it too.  You should put away whatever you can afford.  Financially it is smart to have a long engagement.  That is what I did.  Also, if you have a rehearsal dinner.  You pay for that.  Your bridemaids most likely will give you a surprise bridal shower.  My husband and I just put our money together and paid for everything.  We didn't divide the money evenly because it was our money.  We didn't keep track.  You don't need a joint savings account.  Just share an account.

Answer 5

Bride maids pay for their own dresses unless the bride offers to pay.

They also pay for their own hair and makeup, shoes and accessories.  Unless the bride makes certain unresonalbe or expensive demands, then she must pay for it.  

Answer 6

first off, congratulations!!! i think its custom for the bride to buy the bridesmaids dresses. as for sharing the expenses, just make it 50/50? or with the shared saving account, just each put away a set amount each week that you two decide together whether that amount is the same or different depending on what each of you earn. an appropriate wedding budget would be anything between 10-25 grand, but again, it totally depends on each individual and their financial situation. you could still manage a great wedding for under 10 grand.

good luck to you and your fiance!!

Answer 7

I think it should be however you and your groom want it to be. There is no plan to follow. It is known that bridesmaids pay for their dresses. But if you can afford to help the bridesmaids. It's such a beautiful time of your life most people will save to pay for their things to make it easier for the bride and groom. Some parent's help pay for the wedding, I know people who had to pay for their own wedding without their parents help. Start saving now 2 1/2 years go by quickly. The bigger the guest list the more money you will need. Purchase some bridal books. They sell them a major supermarkets like Giant, Wegmans, Safeway, Walmart. They sell for about $6-$7.

They are loaded with dress and wedding ideas. Good luck