Wedding Registry - Please Help

Question

This might be a stupid question, but I'm curious...Once you register, is it supposed to be a secret of what people bought until the shower or wedding? My fiance says I shouldn't go back and look to see what we've gotten so far, but I read online that you should so you can keep track and keep updating your registry.

Any thoughts or opinions?

Answer 1

Here's what I told my husband, who didn't want to open a wedding card we received in the mail, and thought it was "cheating" to check the registry.  It's not my birthday, and it's not Christmas.  These are things I've already asked for.  [I also had fun guessing what was from who.]  And in the case of gifts that were sent by mail before the wedding, I was able to respond immediately with a thank you card.  We also checked periodically for things that were out of stock or "currently unavailable", which happens at Target.com a lot.  

Answer 2

I don't think there is nothing wrong with looking to see what was purchased already. I think you should look as often as you like. I check so often I usually see another item has been purchased before I get and update from the website.  

Answer 3

You check so that if you see additional items or someone asks you what you need, you know.

You two already registered for the gifts, so it's not going to be a shocker when you open that toaster so I don't know what your fiance is thinking.

Answer 4

You can look if you want. Someone may get you something you registered for but it might not have been taken off the registry (this happened to me a few times!) so it is good to check when you get gifts.

Answer 5

You can check and add more if you like but you won't know who bought what.

Answer 6

Well, you don't know WHO gave it to you, so that could be the surprise part. I support checking your registry because sometimes you could have made a mistake (like my friend who registered for the wrong coffee maker). Also, sometimes your guests forget to ring the registry gift up correctly, so you end up with double gifts.

Definitely check it after your shower to make sure you don't get doubles...

Answer 7

Some registries even email you when people purchasing things, alerting that your list has changed.  Seeing as you chose everything on the list, it's not really a surprise anyway.  Sometimes the surprise can be seeing who it is that bought it.  The clear-cut answer is - Whatever you like, though!  Some brides like to be on top of everything that's going on...You are the bride, so that's your choice!!!

Answer 8

Not a stupid question!!! I plan on doing the same thing. You try and guess who got you what and when you open the gifts you're surprised either way!!! I did the same thing with my baby registry!! No worries...keep looking and update accordingly! =)

Answer 9

You can keep track by pulling up your registry and seeing the different "want it" and "got it" columns.

There's nothing wrong with going back and checking to see, but that takes the fun out of the surprise of getting gifts!!! :-)

Answer 10

Whether you look at what was bought or not is up to you. My husband and I looked all the time.

Yes, you should definitely go back to at least update your registry. You don't have to look at what was purchased to add things to your registry, though. If it's on line, like at Amazon, just be logged in and click "add to wedding registry." If it's offline, like at Target, just log in at the kiosk, grab the gun, and go zapping.

Depending on how long it is before your wedding, you should add more items at about six months before, and then again about a month before.

Answer 11

Personally, I don't think that it's wrong to go back and look.. I mean, you guys registered for it, so there's really not a big surprise... And also you need to check to make sure that there's enough stuff for people to buy. Congrats!!

Answer 12

you should listen to ur inner wisdom and soul not to him