Wedding Request for Money or Help Pay for Wedding?

Question

I am getting married in a few months. We have been together for 7 years and living together for at least 5. We have everything we need so how do I just ask for people to help pay for the wedding?

Answer 1

Why bother? Go to the courthouse and get married.  

Answer 2

Are you serious! Living together for 5 YEARS and you want people to pay for your wedding.

Pay for it yourself. Either that or parents. IF not PAY for it yourself. Goodness!

Answer 3

ask your parents, or your partners parents.

Answer 4

You don't .  If you've been together that long you two should have figured out a way to pay.  Perhaps you can do a beach wedding and reception picnic, with bring your on steak, sounds tacky but I think it might work for you two.

Answer 5

You can't. It is in the poorest of taste to mention gifts on the invitation or in any way if it is initiated by you.

The good news is, you can link to your wedding website on the invitations (I would do it on a separate card) and on the website, you can have a tab that says Gifts and say something like this:

Since Mark and Holly have everything they need for their household, they have decided not to register for gifts. For those who are seeking suggestions, they would appreciate cash or gift cards. But your presence is the best present we could ask for.

The other good news is, many people, knowing you have lived together for some time, will realize that you don't probably need a toaster and enclose cash or a check with their card and leave it at that.

Best wishes for a terrific marriage.

Answer 6

i can't even believe that you are asking this question seriously.

not only do you NOT ask for money EVER....but cash/checks are given to help the newlyweds get settled in their new home or to put some away in savings. this should be particularly beneficial to you and your fiance. since you already have everything you need, put money away for a rainy day fund or retirement.

you MUST know by now what you two can afford...people will not be expecting a over-the-top gala...they will be expecting an intimate and personable party celebrating your love and commitment. if you can reasonably afford a big party then by all means, have at it. but if a backyard bbq "reception" fits better into your budget, without handouts from guests, then there is no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed.

weddings are not fundraisers!!!  

Answer 7

I think it is really tacky to even be thinking about asking people to help pay for the wedding. It is your decision to finally get married so it is your responsibility to pay for it. If you can't afford it put it off until you can. Since you have been living together for 5 years what is the rush for now? I mean no offense but there are more important things people need their money for than paying for your wedding.

Answer 8

Asking your wedding guests to help pay for YOUR wedding is inappropriate . . rude . . and shows poor taste.  You cannot ask your guests to help pay for the DJ . . you cannot ask your guests to help pay for the wedding cake . . and you cannot ask your guests to help pay for the bridesmaids' bouquets.  It's YOUR wedding . . and it is YOUR responsibility to assume those fees and costs.

And do you also ask your dinner guests to bring their the turkey, mashed potatoes, and gravy to your house for Thanksgiving dinner?

YOU only get one chance to make a first impression as a Bride and Groom, and if you ask your guests to help pay your wedding you have made a very poor first impression.

Answered by:  A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Answer 9

Lots of brides are doing the wishing wells or treasure chests these days...and before everyone starts thumbs downing me, I believe a wishing well is no tackier than sending someone a slip of paper saying ''are you going to buy me the coffee machine or the knife block?''

There are some poems you can have printed (or print yourself) in place of gift registery details. I wouldn't go directly asking people to pay for your wedding though. This is something you are usually expected to pay for yourself unless your parents pitch in. Here's a link for the poems you might like to look at: http://www.salandras.com/Wishing%20Well%...

Answer 10

You don't!

This is beyond tacky and I can't believe how many people continue to ask this question. You and your fiance need to have a wedding and reception that you can afford already, without contributions from your guests. They are GUESTS, not a source of income! You do not, ever, ask your guests for money to help you pay for a party you are actually throwing for them.

If you parents want to contribute, that's very generous of them. But you never, ever ask your guests to help you pay for the wedding. If you can't afford a full sit-down dinner, have a small cake and punch reception. You need to live within your budget starting now!

Answer 11

Please don't do that when people do that I give them less it is very greedy. I have two weddings where they have a account to put the money in and I think that is so rude especially if you already have everything. You might as well register for people to pay for your honeymoon. I would give you $50 less if you did that.