Wedding ceremony issues?? Please help.

Question

Ok. I got married earlier this year, and I got married in a courthouse. I REALLY want a ceremony, a small one, and I tell my husband this all the time. This morning I tried to tell him about it, and he wouldn't hear any of it. I told him we can have a ceremony early next year the same date we originally got married. I told him I could care less if the wedding only cost $200 or $2000, can do it 2 church, recep @ a rec center, and I we could even honeymoon at Red Roof Inn. That's how bad I want my ceremony. I don't care how inexpensive or expensive, I just want MY special day. I feel like he cheated me, and he's not trying to make it right @ all. I don't ask him for anything, but it's like he does not care to please me or even try anything anymore. What can I do?? I'm pretty sure I'm the only one trying. What can I do to get my ceremony?? Thanks.

Answer 1

do you love him? is he more important to you than this ceremony? Maybe you should think about your relationship before trying to force him into something. You are already married, you have him, that is what is supposed to be the most important part of a wedding. It seems to me that you are too focused on this wedding ceremony. Wait unitl your tenth anniversary to have a ceremony. It will be more special than a one year anniversary.

I hope you see what is most important in your relationship.  

Answer 2

You've got to be joking!  You would seriously consider getting a divorce because your husband is being sensible?  YOU'RE ALREADY MARRIED!  You chose to get married when you did, which obviously meant having to go to the courthouse.  Get over it!  I think you're being very selfish.  I think your husband is justified in not even acknowleding your request.  Why spend money on something that is unneccessary?  You really should reconsider your marriage because you obviously have no idea what marriage is all about.

Answer 3

maybe lay off of it while. or if your both big on email, email it to him, explain your feelings on it. Men have a weird way of expressing there feelings. Maybe he wants to give you a big nice one, but knows it cant be afforded yet. Or maybe, if he was previously married, maybe she said the same thing and it ended up costing him an arm and a leg. If you really want it. You'll figure out a way to get it done. But if he is just being ignorant and rude about it. lol. my advise leave his sorry butt..  

Answer 4

Obviously you need two willing participants for a wedding ceremony.  Why did you agree to the courthouse wedding if you really wanted a church ceremony?  

This is an issue that only the two of you can resolve.  

Answer 5

You're thinking of leaving this guy because he won't give in to your fantasy after the fact? You should have spoke up when it was time to plan your wedding, not whine about it now! You had your shot at YOUR day, and chose otherwise (don't even say 'well it's what we HAD to do, or it's what HE wanted - it was the time to 'speak now', but you chose to 'forever hold your peace') so unlike the playground there are no 'do-overs' just because you WANTED YOUR day.

Answer 6

ok really. just have a party. you got married in the courthouse. or you know what. wait a few years and renew your vows. that could be a plan right? but you cant have a ceremony cause your already married... so just renew your vows in 4 years

you got married in a courthouse. you didnt get cheated it was what you wanted to do. cause he didnt drag you there.  

Answer 7

If he's that much against it, do you really want to force the issue? How much enjoyment would you get out of the day knowing he really doesn't want to be there? Maybe the two of you could compromise and have a small ceremony at your house with just family and close friends and then throw a celebration party another day, just not a reception so to speak. Either way, I hope it works out for you. Congratulations!

Answer 8

Wow, that is really unfair that your husband is trying to deny you of this very special day of yours. Why dont you sit down and ask him what his problem with having a ceremony really is? Is it the cost of it? Is it all the planning?  

Answer 9

just plan it...and if he doesn't want to be there i think you know then the kind of man you really married

Answer 10

Are you for real?

First you say "I got married in a courthouse" then you say "I feel like he cheated me". Exactly how? By the sound of it, you got married of your own free will at the courthouse. You could have said no, and waited, and planned a ceremony with reception, but you didnt. That was your choice and you made it and now its over.

Besides, wedding do-overs are the most pathetic displays. And you sound pathetic for wanting to do one.  

Answer 11

get divorced and marry me. just kidding. acyually i cant belive that theres a woman out there who doesnt get what she wants. Boook one, pay for it and go. Invite him, if he doesnt arrive. Divorce him and marry me. sorry felt sorry for you so had to write something. Make a subliminal tape with affirmations on it and play it when hes around. Record 20 x something to the effect of You keep your wife happy, you always agree with her sugestions, etc. most women dont need one.?

Answer 12

Well, he's right, you are already married.

If circumstances dictated you got married the way you did, well, then you have to accept the consequences...

Be happy in your marriage, and quit with the regrets. How about concentrating on your marriage...

Answer 13

Why did you marry him in the first place in Court if what you wanted is to have a church wedding? And from what you are saying I really don't think your going to get the wedding of your dreams with this man. It might be time to move on.