Wedding dress's hate me!!?

Question

So I have bought a dress and now i hate it. I have found one I like and i go back and try it on and i dont like it. I am short 5 foot! But I have a huge upper half. I am a average 16w -18w and the dress that I bought before was a 22w but its small.. I have tried to sell it on ebay and it just cost me too much to list/ relist! i love it in the bag i love it on. But, then I think about it being 200 to have to cut to fit me and i think to myself I can find onthats better for less. I paid 400 for this dress in november 07. Mind you I had a baby october 9. 07 I didnt lose or gain my weight just went places. Now i have bought online and returned and the only thing I am doing is wasting money for shipping or gas!! However I made my future husband take pictures in this dress so I could list on e bay!! Now I dont want it at all. I was thinking about tellhim I sold it and getting it cut to fit?? I dont know what to do HELLLLLP!

Answer 1

They don't hate you.. but I know you must be feeling that way by now. Ok my best advice, do not wear the one you showed him... you don't want the first thing he thinks when you walk down the isle to be.. "Didn't she sell that one on Ebay".. you want to take his breath away and have him awed.

So sell the dress on ebay at a local consignment store, a friend, craigslist or some where. Then go to a local bridal store.. one that has good reviews or comes highly recommended.

Then talk to the consultant and be open minded.. you are too stressed and you are over thinking the dress. Relax, focus and let a professional help you out of this.

I can't tell you how often I bring a dress to a bride she would have never picked up her self that ends up being "the one"

Take it easy and best of luck!

Answer 2

I do not know of any wedding gown that does not need some alteration. Find the best seamstress or tailor around and ask her or him how to make the dress fit better. Don't feel bad about cutting it. Do whatever you have to do to make it look good on you.

Answer 3

Wedding dresses need to be something that you try on and get tears in your eyes.  If you find it buy it.  Mine cost $1000 and I still get misty eyed seeing it.  Don't show it to your fiance or tell him about it.  If you have one you don't really like then get it out of there!  A little pointer-NO ONE WILL BUY A DRESS OFF THE RACK AND WEAR IT!!!  Everyone will have to have some part of a dress altered whether it be to take in a narrower waist or a smaller bust proportion wise.  Mine needed to be hemmed up and could have been taken in at the bust but I didn't have time!  Don't look at the size at all.  I wear a size 4 and mine was a 10.  My best friend bought a 20 and she's a 16.  Dresses are weird and just ignore the number associated with it.  I know they cost a lot and it's a big thing but after trying on dress after dress I found the one and it was perfect.  It wasn't even a dress I liked on the rack but tried it on because it was close to my size.  Me and my family all cried at it and I didn't let my husband see it or hear about it until I walked down the isle.   With the 'size' you mentioned short and a 16), try looking for a halter style (accentuates the shoulder) with a little 'poof' in the skirt which will emphasize the narrowest part of your figure and flow outward.  Make sure it fits well and find a good tailor to take it up a foot!  (just kidding)  Most dress places have a tailor that knows how to work with these dresses.  

Just have fun with it because if you don't you will regret it!

Answer 4

Well that dress has to go now, if he saw you in it, that is a bad thing! Well at least to me anyway. I am a traditional person, only in that one sense. You must never let him see you in the dress before hand. You can have it changed if you want, or just buy another dress and wear that one for either the reception or the wedding itself, if your in love with two dresses have two dresses. Your only going to do this once, so have fun with it. I would like to suggest though, if it is strapless, you might want to have to little spag. straps sewn in so that way the girls don't come a flying out. I am top heavy too and I fought that d**n dress all night long. Just an FYI. Hope it helped. GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

You need to stop obsessing over the dress; the wedding is not about the dress! It's about you and your husband to be. I've worked in the bridal industry for a good long while, and nothing is more frustrating and depressing to me than to witness these women, who are supposed to be so excited and happy, make themselves miserable over a piece of clothing. The only reason women obsess so much is the dogma of 'IT MUST BE PERFECT OR THE WORLD WILL EXPLODE' that is ingrained in women since girlhood. It's a crying shame.

It's not about the stupid dress. Wear what you like, s***w what other people say about how it looks on you, and focus on your husband's face as you walk down that isle. Nothing else should matter, certainly not the satin/polyester mix with some cotton thread and plastic beading wrapped around your body. You will be beautiful by virtue of who and what you are, not a pricetag.

Good luck, and congradulations. :-)

Answer 6

Oh sweetie, I see brides like you all the time--I work in a bridal shop, I sell wedding dresses.  Do yourself a favor, quit trying to buy your wedding dress online.  If you walked into my store, I would be able to look at you, and get a pretty good idea of what dresses would look good on you, and which ones would look horrible on you--and I wouldn't even show you the ones that wouldn't look right.  Find a good bridal store in your area, and physically try the dress on BEFORE you buy it.  Those pictures online look great, that's because they're taken of a model who's probably at least 5'7" tall, she's probably a size 0 or 2, and she's probably wearing 3 inch heels to boot.  You deserve to feel absolutely beautiful in your wedding dress, it's not about perfection, it's about finding the right dress, and you obviously haven't found it, so find a good bridal salon and find THE dress.  

As far as the dress you've already bought, see if there's a consignment store in your area, most major metro areas have at least one, and you can consign the dress there.  You can also take your lumps on this, but donate the dress to charity, that way you'll at least be able to deduct the value of the dress from your taxes.  

Good luck!

Answer 7

Try listing it other palces

wantadvertiser

craiglist

kijiji

and local consignment stores may have luck.

buy a dress you really love!