Wedding etiquette - favours and gift list?

Question

We are having 120 peopl at the ceremony, which is the maximum number of people the room can hold, then inviting few more people to the reception, which is a buffet, no sit-down meal. Do we give wedding favours to everyone, or just those who attend the ceremony; and do we send out a gift list to everyone, or just those who atend the ceemony?

Answer 1

Everyone attending the reception should receive a favor.

Please, do not callit a "gif list". say registry and everyone invited to the wedding may receive it on the shower inviations, but NEVER the wedding invitations.

It's rude to invite people just to the ceremony and not the reception. people may perceive this as a gift grabbing scam, and trust me, they will not fall for that.

Good luck

Answer 2

You give favors to everyone attending the reception. You do not send out a gift registry to anyone. This is not proper. if a guest asks, you can let them know where you're registered.

FYI - It is fine to invite some guests to the ceremony and more to the reception - but ot the other way around.

Answer 3

i think favors are something you pass out at the reception, or at least have them sitting at the table. how would you feel if you were only invited to a reception party of a wedding and saw everyone caring around their favor? i would feel left out. i think you should provide them for all guest that attend. most people have a registry. don't send out a list, that may come across as tacky.  

Answer 4

Really you only give favours to people who come for the main wedding breakfast.

You send gift lists with your invites to everybody.

Answer 5

On our wedding day we are giving the people who come to the ceremony a gift, but not the people coming to the reception.  Where I stay thats the normal thing to do.  

We are setting up a gift list for everyone who comes, they dont have to buy us anything, but if they do want to buy us a present they can use it to get ideas - some people find this rude, but every wedding I have ever gone to where Im from has always had a gift list to choose from so I dont consider it as rude, and everyone I have spoken to doesnt find it rude either!

Answer 6

Well, it depends on how you're giving out the favors. If you're giving them out at the reception (traditionally done that way) then everyone who attends the reception receives one. It would be bad manners otherwise. If you give them out before or after the ceremony then only guests who attend the ceremony receive them.

As far as your "gift list", you don't send it out to anyone. Even if you register you don't provide that information in the invite since it's considered to be asking for gifts and/or telling your guests what gifts they need to purchase. If they really want to know what to get you, they can ask and then you can tell. Registry info is spread via word of mouth.  

Answer 7

Each person that attends any part of your wedding receives a favor, so make sure you have enough for each person at the reception.

As far as your gift list, it's in extremely poor taste to send it out with the invitations. The only proper way to let people know about your registry is to have your parents and wedding party tell everyone via word of mouth, or create a wedding website and post the info there. The reason being, gifts are never required at parties, including weddings, so by including a gift list, it's as if saying, "I'm expecting you to bring a gift," which is rude.

Hope that helps, hun.

Answer 8

give one favor to each family OR one per single adult who attends the reception, and include a gift list with each invitation you give out

Answer 9

normally everyone at teh reception gets a favor. you usually put it at their seat at the reception.

Answer 10

I think it should be one wedding favor per family. Why would you give a favor to someone who isn't attending your wedding?  So if your Aunt Sue + her husband and their son atteend. They get 1 favor. The same applies to the gift list.

Answer 11

You invite the same number of people to the ceremony and reception, not more to one.

Favours are usually put out at each place setting at the dinner.

You don't send out a gift list!