Wedding etiquette for bridal dance?

Question

I am getting married and my mother and father are divorced. Neither are remarried. My mother has been dating a man for 4 years however, they are not engaged and do not live together. How should my parents be introduced? Should my mothers significant other be her escort and be introduced at my wedding reception as her significant other or should my parent be introduced together? My parents get along very well and do not care either way. Please help. The boyfriend wants to be introduced with my mother however, I would rather my mom and dad be introduced and dance together at my reception.

Answer 1

Are you having a host do the intros?

People will (I assume) see your mom being escorted in with her boyfriend to the ceremony.

I take it your dad will not have a lady with him.

Here is what I would write out for the person doing the intros.

I want to take a moment to introduce the family of the bride: Mr. Allan Bride -- father of the bride and Ms. Katherine Bride -- mother of the bride. Ms. Bride (or Kathy) is escorted tonight by Mr. Steve Smith.

I think your parents should dance together for part of your first dance with your hubby. Then your dad can cut in on you and Steve can start dancing with your mom.

Answer 2

It is YOUR wedding. I dont think the boyfriend should have much say.

Answer 3

Wow "pointsprincess". Could you be any more rude? I think it is perfectly acceptable for your parents to be introduced together and dance together. Obviously, if you know that they get along very well then so would most of your guests. I dont think anyone would be weirded out by anything. As for the boyfriend, it is your wedding and your day. Do whatever makes you happy.

Answer 4

I say have your parents be introduced together. My husbands were not but they were both remarried so he had step parents. I think it would sound silly, and this is my mother and this is my mothers boyfriend. I know it might hurt her boyfriends feelings a little bit. but see, this is your wedding and your introducing your parents, wouldnt it bee wierd to introduce them seperately, especially if they get along and they are not remarried. and then, if your moms boyfriend dances with your mom for the bridal dance, who's gonna dance with your dad? Yeah, just take him aside and explain your reasons and tell him its nothing personal. Maybe you can find a way for him to be a part of your wedding. He obviously cares about your mom, you, and your wedding. Maybe he just wants to be a part of it in some way. Maybe he can do  a reading or something, or maybe they can switch off in the middle of the dance. lol sounds silly i know, but maybe if they can make it silly on purpose, you can pull it off, that would be funny. Congratulations by the way! I know all these little decisions about the wedding seem giant!!!!! It'll be perfect!!!!!!

Answer 5

get over it, your parents are divorced, grow up! don't make them dance, thats very disrespectful to your mother's partner.

skip that whole part and dance with your husband.

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel. I know if I was in your position I would MOST DEFFINATELY want my parents to dance together and be introduced as your parents. Afterall they both have raised you for your entire life. If the boyfriend can't understand, tell him not to come lol. I see one person on here told you to grow up. But it is your wedding and you can have it anyway you want it.

At my wedding I want family photo's done of my aunty and uncle they are seperated. But my Aunty has a boyfriend. He doesn't have anything to do with me, so I'll be asking him to step out. I don't want him in my family photo's, afterall he's not family :P If I had my way I wouldn't invite him at all.

Answer 7

You introduce your parents as your parents. The dude is just your mom's bf.

Answer 8

Would it be possible for them to all be introduced together?

I don't think your moms boyfriend will like watching his girlfriend dance with her ex husband. I think that would be disrespectful to him.