Wedding etiquette question?

Question

We have about 10 out of town guests that will be flying in for my wedding. I was curious, does the bride and groom pay for the lodging? Does the guest accept the fact they pay their own lodging by accepting the invitation? Thanks.

Answer 1

Guests are responsible for their own airfare and accomodations.

It would be helpful if the bride & groom could arrange for a block of rooms at a nearby hotel.  That would save everyone money because they usually are at a discounted rate.

Answer 2

No way! I Travel all the time to Weddings and no one has ever paid for me!!  Unless they are your Maid of Honor or best man etc then they pay their own way!  Give them a list of close acceptable hotels etc so they can choose...but beyond that don't give this a second thought!

Answer 3

If you have asked them to be in your wedding party then you must provide their lodging, normally by putting them up in your home if you have the space, or by providing hotel rooms if your own establishment is too small.

If they are guests but not otherwise playing a role in your wedding, then they will expect to pay for their own lodging. You are already providing them with food, drink, hospitality and good company during your wedding reception: that is your full obligation to them.

Answer 4

They pay for their own lodging.  

Answer 5

Yes, guests pay for their own lodging. They should know that. If they are very close to you and you offer to pay then great, otherwise they know they are on their own. If they complain, they had unrealistic expectations. Out of town guests should get a save the date card 6 months before the wedding so they have time to make arrangements. You may want to reserve a block of rooms at a reasonably priced hotel. Maybe get them a little extra special favor to give them in private to recognize the extra effort they took to get there. None of that is "required" though.  Some people invite out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner, but if you aren't close to them or if you can't afford it I don't see a problem with not inviting them to that since that is a lot of people.  

Answer 6

Guests should never assume that the bride and groom are going to pay for their travel expenses or lodging or food, unless the bride and groom make that offer ahead of time.

What you CAN do that might help is call some local hotels and ask if your family can get a discount if all of them stay in the same hotel.  Some hotels will do this, some won't.  Some want a minimum number of rooms.  Some will only do it if you're having your reception there.  But it's always worth asking.  

Answer 7

If they are relatives you mite pay but other wise they oay there own way!!!!!

Answer 8

The guests are responsible for their own lodging. Although some couples will reserve a block of rooms at a hotel for their guests and sometimes the guests can get a cheaper rate. You as the bride and groom are responsible for paying for any wedding related activites the out of town guests are involved in. Just and FYI welcome baskets are a nice thing to give your out of towners. Maybe some coffee (if the room has a coffee pot) a few goodies from the local bakery and a note welcoming and thanking them.  

Answer 9

Your geusts pay for thire own lodgings

Answer 10

Generally guests know they need to pay for their own lodging.  If you have tons of extra money lying around, you can pay, but it's not expected.

Answer 11

You block out rooms at a hotel for a discounted price, then send the info, and they pay for their own rooms.

Answer 12

DON"T feel obligated to give everyone a free ride. People understand that you have a lot of expenditures for your wedding and that is not one people expect. Now if you want to help them by putting some up with relatives well that might be an idea. But  NO don't feel as if you have to.