Ok here is the situation. June 2007 I became engaged to be married in May 2008. My best friend started dating a guy in May, got engaged to him in August and married him in September (2007). They were married out of state, family only invited. She never had a shower, except for a lingerie shower, which I spent $75 on her gift for. They had said they were going to have a party/reception when they got back but never did. Fast forward to 2008, I had a lingerie shower/bachelorette party, and she didn’t come, they were in FL. Then I had 2 other showers and she acted like she wasn’t going to be able to make it to them. (she’s my best friend!) She ended up coming to both, but she got me a cake pan and a cookie sheet. Now I know that nobody is obligated to give you gifts and you should not be ungrateful, but they have lots of money (and aren’t shy talking about it, it’s disgusting really, like they have a condo in FL, she doesn’t work, they are in FL every other week, she has nice designer shoes and purses, etc.). And I am slightly insulted that she spent so little on my gift when I bought her nice lingerie, AND a $30 gift card to buy whatever she would like for herself. That gift card alone was more than what she gave me.
So here’s the thing, now, a year later, they are having their party/reception. They just registered and everything! I personally think it is extremely tacky to have a party for yourselves and put where you are registered on the invitations - a year later! Now I guess I have to get them a gift, so should I spend $20 on her like she did on me? Even though I gave her a nice lingerie shower gift? I am one of those people that likes to give more than receive, I probably spend entirely too much on gifts for others. I would never give a gift less than $30, and I would easily spend $100 on a close friend. My husband and I do fine, but lets just say we both work, and we only have one residence! My husband can’t stand them bc they talk about money so much. The first 3 times my husband met her husband, he dropped the phrase $10,000, talking about it like its nothing. My husband had all the money taken out of his checking account (id fraud) and when I told them, her husband said “was it a lot of money?†I said “it was everything in his checking account†he said “like, more than $10,000?†WTF??? Mind your own business! My husband also said he would be embarrassed to give a friend a cookie sheet and cake pan for a wedding gift. I would too. (unless I was financially unable to give more, but that is not the case.)
Help please?
Btw, we are in our mid-late 20s.
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