Wedding guest list??

Question

Some people we're inviting don't have a significant other, is it acceptable to not put +1 on their invite? Our guest list has grown from 125 to about 175 pretty quick. I'm just looking for ways to cut down the list. ideas?

Answer 1

That is what I did, I addressed it to the individual and that was it.  If someone had a significant other I put there name on the invite as well.  There is no reason for someone to bring a guest to the wedding if they are not in a relationship.  It is a wedding.  My main thing was I wanted a small, and personal wedding.  I didn't want someone I didn't invite there.  I had a friend ask to bring someone and I told her no.  Mainly the way I put it was:  You know we are trying to keep the wedding to close friends and family.  I think it would be a little weird if she was there, since I don't know her, and since everyone there will be a really close friend."  People understood.  And I was able to keep my guest list at 60 people.  Just what I wanted!

Answer 2

I don't think that would be appropriate.

But, they probably won't bring anyone, anyhow.

I mean, you don't bring a first or casual date to a

wedding.

Answer 3

I addressed to an individual if I KNEW for a fact they wouldn't bring anyone. However I did continue using the +1 for those who didn't have significant other. So it said "We have reserved 2 seats in your honor" they'd mark how many were coming, MOST of the time it was just one..alot of our guests didn't bring someone with them unless they were married/in a serious relationship

I think that if you don't include +1 on the invite of those older and who don't have a spouse, it might be ok, if you have some family members in the situation, they may come together

Answer 4

just because they don't have a significant other...does not mean they can't find nor want someone to go with them...you should keep the +1 but make sure somewhere in the invites you tell all your guest that if they can not make it...or whatever...that they tell you so you know how many are attending and how many are not

Answer 5

I personally feel that it is appropriate to put "and guest" to invitations of single friends/family.  I don't think you HAVE to do it though.  It's your decision and your wedding and you can invite whoever you want.

Answer 6

Th etiquette experts on here will tell you that every single (as in, non-attached) guest should be allowed to bring a guest.

However, rules have changed a lot over the years, and for budget reasons or otherwise, it's totally acceptable to address the invitation to that one person. Unless that person is traveling far and will not know anyone there, they don't need to scramble at the last minute to bring someone just for the sake of having someone there ... especially because you won't know that person, either, and will end up paying for their meal.

We're using the following guideline for our guest list: No "plus ones" unless you're in a serious relationship, living together or married (up to your discretion what constitutes a serious relationship). We have a few guests that are traveling from out of state that are single, so we're allowing them to bring someone just because we know they won't know anyone. However, it's only two people doing that, so we were okay with it.

Just make sure you address your invitations to the person's name only. If they still RSVP for two people (some might because they're rude or don't know any better), just call them up (or have your parents or fiance do it) and politely say, "As much as we would love to meet your guest, because we're already at maximum capacity with our venue, we can't allow them to come. We're applying this guideline to everyone, though, so it's not just you. I hope you understand and still plan on attending."

If they don't like it, they won't come, and your guest list will dwindle down some.

Hope that helps. Happy planning!

Answer 7

I would ask them singularly, if they have a partner they would like to bring then I am sure they will ask you and not just turn up with them.

I have invited a friend of mine but not her "man" as I have never met him and from what she has told me about the way he treats her I would not want him there either.

She is ok about this, so go with what you want, its your day and its your money !

Answer 8

absolutely.  if someone does not have a boyfriend or fiance or husband (girlfriend or wife, whatever) there is NO NEED for you to let them have a guest.  if you put plus one on their invite and they don't have a current bf/gf, they may go find any old person to bring as a date, and it'll be someone you've never met, and do you really want people you've never met around at your wedding?