Wedding guests: how PO'd would you be if the couple sent a photo instead of a personalized thank you?

Question

You pick out a lovely gift from the couple's registry, travel to the wedding, and you wish them well. A month later, you receive a picture of the couple in the mail, with a generic thank you pre-printed in a fancy font. There is no personal message mentioning you or the particular gift you gave them. Would you be angry?

Answer 1

i so agree with jay, i mean did you give a gift for the new couple to

show your support of their union? or did you give the gift as to be acknowledged for what a wonderful human being you are?

look at it this way you were acknowledged were you not?

Answer 2

NO. It's good enough for me.

Answer 3

It would probably depend on the picture. Just as long it's a really nice picture it probably wouldn't be a problem. Also, it might depend on how many people go to your wedding. If it's a small wedding it's probably better to go with a personal message. However, it's a large wedding I think people will understand if you don't want to write out every single thank you note.

Answer 4

No, I wouldn't.  Presumably, I attended the wedding and gave them a gift because I wanted to celebrate their marraige.  I would also understand that they are very busy.  (And who do you think writes all the thank-you notes?  The bride.  I'm sure she's got a full-time job and has plenty to do already.)   I would be fine with getting an acknowledgment like that.  

Edit:  I don't understand people who give a gift and then expect something in return.  That's not a gift, then--that's a business transaction.  If that's how you feel, don't give any gifts.  Clearly, you don't enjoy doing it.

Answer 5

I think this would fit in the category  of "get-a-life" on your part.  Modern women don't always have time to adhere to antiquated rules.  Hence, email invites.

Answer 6

I guess it depends.  If she was my BFF since college or I was in the wedding & a close friend of either the bride or groom I would be disappointed.  But if i was one of 300 guests & got a photo with a Thank You that would be OK.  You can only read a card (10 seconds), but you can enjoy the photo for a long time.

Answer 7

I wouldn't be. I think its a much better idea than a card you know their cranky about having to write, as they have written 100 just like it, that I am just going to toss in my office desk drawer after reading, where it will sit collecting dust for a year or so. A photo at least is something I can cherish as well.  

Answer 8

No.  I would know they were busy and I would appreciate any acknowledgement they had time for.  Especially if it were a large wedding and the time needed to make personal notes for each gift would be astronomical.

I didn't give them the gift in order to be acknowledged.  "The joy is in the giving."

Answer 9

Just keep this in mind when you get the house warming invitation and baby announcements.  Just send a really nice card with only your name signed on the bottom.

Answer 10

I'd be a little irritated.  It's nice that the couple got married, but what are you going to do with a wedding picture?  The generic thank you note is very tacky.

Answer 11

I'd be annoyed. And I would be sure to remember that when the invitations starting coming in for baby showers, birthdays, etc.  

Answer 12

I would not want to receive a thank you note that was not at least signed.  

Answer 13

ya! i traveld all the way to the wedding and got them a thought out gift and all i get is a freaking pre printed un personal thank you card? ugh...

Answer 14

I think its a little careless.  After all you spent more on a gift and didn't print your name on the gift.  I have been sent a thank you almost like that only she wrote thank you on it but you could also tell its the same thing she wrote to everyone.

Try getting a baby shower thank you from your own sister but its in someone else's handwriting and signed with her name but not by her.  I was ticked.

Answer 15

Why let things like this bother you?  I'd be happy to receive a photo with a pre-printed thank you on it.  Once I give a gift, it's out of my hands.  If I'm worried about it that much, then I am turning into my own Mother & that's just not a healthy option.  

I'm 55 & I know the era you are referring to.  Sorry, but those days are gone & I say good riddence! or is that riddens?  I'm just glad for the women who don't have to worry about these types of things, as we once did.  Now if we could only get them to stop getting married & having children...I think the entire problem would NEVER have to be worried about again!  

If it worries you, then why not give the bride a call & ASK her if she enjoyed the gift you gave her?...just a thought that might put your fears to rest, whatever they may be!

Answer 16

I wouldn't be angry actually. I think it's already nice of them to mail out a generic thank you picture-card. A personalised message would be a plus point especially if it's from my best friend.

I wouldn't hold it against them. Some people will make that extra effort to thank everyone who attended their wedding and some people won't even bother (not even a thank-you card). So it basically downs to the individual's personality.

If it bothers you, call them up and ask how they are doing and if they like your gift? I'm sure they won't mind (",)

Answer 17

If I was the kind of person that searches for things to be angry about, I guess that would be at the bottom of the list.