Wedding guests who didn't bring presents...?

Question

At my recent wedding I had about 15 couples come without gifts. I'm writing my thank yous tonight, and I wonder if I should send one that says something along the lines of "Thanks for coming" or if I should not send one at all.

I'm also a bit concerned that the reason I don't have gifts from these couples is that some of the cards may have gotten stolen. I was thinking if I sent nothing, we would harbor bad feelings toward each other forever over a mix up.

What should I do?!?

Answer 1

How about "Thank you for celebrating with us on our special day!" or something like that? Then it doesn't directly refer to gifts or attending only.

Answer 2

i think that you should just send a thank you saying thanks for coming

Answer 3

I would definitely send a "Thanks for coming" card.   If they gave a gift and didn't get a thank you for it, they will probably ask if you received the gift.

This actually happened to me,  I gave a memorial gift and only got a "Thank you for coming".  I didn't know what to do,  (as I didn't know if the family had just been remiss),  but eventually asked because I was worried that it had been taken.  (It wasn't).

If even one couple asks it will give you an idea if the gifts were stolen.

Answer 4

you can do that thanks for coming that's a nice jesture!

Answer 5

Not everyone can afford a gift so stop being greedy and be thankful you know enough people to even come.

Answer 6

Actually true etiquette says that they have a year to give you your gifts.  And if you think something from your wedding got stolen, then you should make everyone aware.  

You should thank them anyway, I thought weddings were about sharing love and everything with the people you care about.  They are not about receiving gifts.

Answer 7

Then thank them for coming.I know a few people had that happen to them.I suggest everyone appoint someone to watch that basket or tree that the cards are put on.My daughter had a wishing well,it sat up by the couple in plain view.Once the couple was saying there good byes,the well was locked in the in-laws r=trunk.Sad but money is money.Congratulations....

Answer 8

Well, for one thing your question is a little vague on the possible theft. You need to find out for sure if some of the cards were stolen. Why do you think they were?

People do have up to a year to send a gift and I know I for one have given a couple a gift a few months after the wedding.

Answer 9

I would send everyone one sayin something like ; just a little thank you for helping to make the day so special and memorable; that will cover everyone gifts and no gifts lol

Answer 10

write your thank u to the couples who didnt bring present,and say i appreciate u and thanks for comming.

Answer 11

Send the thank you cards!  It will always be remembered.

Answer 12

Send them a thank you for coming card anyway. Kudos by the way for hand writing your thank you notes.

That is a horrible thing if someone stole some of your card gifts. And I hope that is not true.

Congrats on the nuptials.

Answer 13

I would definitely send cards to the couples to thank them for coming out to celebrate.

Answer 14

I would write, Thank you for  witnessing our happy occasion

Answer 15

People, she's not being greedy or saying that everyone has to bring presents.  She's saying it makes her think there may have been theft because of the sheer number of people who were giftless.

It's definitely odd that there would be so many to arrive empty-handed.  That would certainly make me suspicious, too.  All it takes is one friend or relative with a drug or gambling problem, and you could see why a lot of envelopes could go missing (especially if they thought there was cash inside).

I would send "thanks for coming" notes and just see if anyone mentions money they they may have put in a card or anything.  It's a lot better than possibly upsetting 30 people who may have brought a gift and think you didn't thank them.

Answer 16

15 couples didn't give you a gift!

That is very bad manners.  I will get on the phone and ask if they send the gift and how because you haven't received it.

There is no need to be polite with them since they are not worth your friendship.

Unless, your friends are very poor but even when I was in HS, I would buy a little wedding presents with what I could afford.

Answer 17

people dont usually steal the cards for a wedding so dont right thank you card to them they didnt get you a present they dont deserve a card

Answer 18

send them "thanks for coming" cards

Answer 19

Thats happen, they doesn't have to right?

Answer 20

Well i still think you should send them 'thanks for coming' cards.

You surely didnt get married for the gifts and i am sure they have their good reason for not buying you a gift ( maybe they spent a lot traveling to the wedding or staying over).

dont let this spoil your friendship or ruin the good memories of your wedding.