Wedding help PLEASE?!!!!

Question

does anyone know where i can get an online checklist or tell me how the actual day should run. I thought we cut cake at the meal but our evening dj has asked when we want to cut the cake! He has also asked about speeches and best man etc are doing theirs at afternoon meal also so who is supposed to make speech on the night? Help! I just wanna see what the norm is. Thanks x

Answer 1

well we sat down and had speeches, then we had the meal and after the meal we cut the cake.

i think that is the general idea

you dont have to follow tradition and i think the dj is asking in general when you want to cut the cake as people arent all the same!!

Answer 2

If you already have a hall booked, ask how they do things.  They may have a "schedule" that they've found works, and if you're okay with doing it that way, all the better...

Our "schedule" from the hall worked out like this:

Honored Guests and Bridal Party announced

Bride and Groom first dance

Toasts (MoH then Best Man)

First course (Soup and Salad)

Cake Cutting (yes, before the meal - they need time to cut it!)

Main meal - B&G go to all tables and thank guests for coming

Father/Daughter Dance

Mother/Son Dance

Dance floor open...

Answer 3

As you can see, everybody does the time line a little different. Here, we serve the cake later in the evening, so people can recover from dinner and actually want some of it. First we eat supper, then we have the speeches, then the dances, then the cake, then the bouquet and garter.

The speeches are from the best man to the bride and groom, then the groom to the bride, then the bride to the groom if she wants. And the bride and groom usually thank the host, and the guests for coming, or the groom can do that, speaking for both. The host can welcome/thank  everybody at the beginning of the event, and again if he wants. The parents of the bride and the groom can say something if they like, and sometimes a member of the audience wants to toast, too, but not often.  

Answer 4

You don't cut the cake at the meal.  You cut the cake later in the evening usually a couple of hours after the meal.  At my reception we had a cocktail hour then the reception started.  The bridal party and the parents are introduced.  They the bride and groom dance and they are joined by the bridal party.  Then it was the father and bride mother and groom dance.  The best man gave a speech.  Then my father said grace.  Dinner was served.  After dinner we danced.  We cut the cake a couple of hours later.  After that we tossed the garter and bouquet and the rest of the night we just danced.

Answer 5

Are you having two receptions? I'm not familiar with how to handle that.  If you're doing all that at the day reception you may not need to do it again at night unless it's different people attending then you may need to do something for them, too.

Traditionally:

Meal then shortly after that

Bouquet toss, garter toss, cake cutting.

If you're doing that at a day-time function then you'll adjust your evening schedule.

If you'll send me a private message with your email I have a 3 or 4 page reception information sheet I can scan and email you.

best wishes & congrats.

Answer 6

theknot.com

Answer 7

Remember this is your day - so whilst you'll want to make sure you don't forget anything, the order of play is really up to you.

You can cut the cake after your wedding breakfast or at the evening reception, this depends on your personal preferences, and might also depend on whether you've booked the photographer for the evening as well as the daytime (as you'll probably want a picture of the bridge and groom cutting the cake).

The link below has a "countdown to your perfect wedding" - which might serve as a good checklist for you.

Answer 8

1 Tip I will give you is do not leave it too late to cut the cake as people that leave earlier than expected will moan endlessly that they didn't get any cake.

If you cut the cake earlier you can also get the venue assistants to distribute it early enough to please everyone.

it doesn't sound important but I hear a lot of mishaps and complaints about this subject alone.

The speeches may be given before, during or after the meal. If you have a buffet though I would recommend speeches before it is served, it keeps people's attention that way.

The speeches are from the Bride's father, the best men and the groom.

If you need any more tips then please visit http://www.weddingchaos.co.uk/

or

www.confetti.co.uk

Answer 9

Your wedding is all about what you want!!! That's what makes the day so special!! But if you want a little advice, spread things out throughout the day!! During the meal you normally have the speeches from the Brides Father, Best Man and then the Groom, but I think it's more special for the Brides Father to make a speech during the evening!! The cake is traditionally cut at the end of the afternoon meal, but I also think it is lovely to have the cake cutting during the evening! By spreading things out it always gives your guests something to see and be part of! But again, this is all about you feeling happy and special, so so things how you want even if it means going against traditional!!

Have a happy marriage and enjoy your day!!!

Answer 10

It's really up to you.

The bestman was the only person to make a speech right before dinner at our wedding.  We cut the cake after a few dances after everyone was done dinner and getting seconds!  You basically don't want to cut the cake while everyone is still eating is the general rule.  

Answer 11

Normally sites like The Knot will have that sort of information.

BTW, every wedding I've been to have cut the cake just after the main course, which is the only way you can do it if you're intending your wedding cake to be the dessert.

Now, like I tell everyone, the wedding day is YOUR day, and you should do things the way YOU want to do them. If you want to cut the cake before the appetizers, do it. If you want to have the speeches at 11pm, do it!

There is no strict rule on speeches, although it's generally the father of the bride, best man (who apparently speaks on behalf of himself and the bridesmaids, though that makes little sense to me), and perhaps the father of the groom. But these days it's up to whoever you ask to speak. I'm asking my father to speak, the best man, the guy who got us together in the first place, and my fiance's dad. But i my experience of weddings, the speeches are normally done during the afternoon reception, before the hoards join the wedding party for the evening boogie. Hopefully this will be while the speakers are still relatively sobre...

Normally (I use the word in the loosest possible sense, because all weddings are different), the speeches will happen just after the main course, but probably before the cake cutting. Though if you prefer, you could cut the cake first, then while it's being plated up, you could have the speeches, which will mean that people won't feel the wait quite as much.

Answer 12

It is your wedding you plan the day to how you want it to run.  You do not have to go with tradition go with what feels right for you.

Your DJ probably wondered if you were going to allow a photo opportunity with the cake, yourself and your husband for people who were not there on the day.  If you cut the cake at the your reception that is fine.

Do not get to stressed it is your day, good luck x

Answer 13

Sample timeline -

2 or 3 p.m. Ceremony, then you go for photographs. Get to the reception location just prior to dinner starting.

5 p.m. Cocktails

6 p.m. Dinner and program, with speeches/toasts.

about 8 p.m. Cake cutting

about 8:30 p.m. First Dance, other special dances, open dance

about 10:30 p.m. Bouquet/garter toss, break for late lunch

Dancing til how long you have your dj or venue....

Answer 14

You make your own timeline, how you and your fiancee want it.

On www.weddingsolutions.com they have a timeline for the Wedding Day. Check it out!

http://www.weddingsolutions.com/index.cf...