Wedding ideas please!

Question

My BF and I live quite a distance away from all our families (except his mom and dad and brother and his family.) We both want a small wedding and to share it with our families and close friends. I love the idea of a very small destination wedding but with traveling these days, that doesn't look too promising for any family to be able to come. And I don't think they will travel for a reception- nor do I care to plan one. And I DESPISE the idea of having to plan something where we live. I don't really care about music, flowers, where people sit, who sits by who, what the program says, who stands beside me, what everyone is wearing... all that stuff that goes into a wedding or reception. I just want to share the day with those I love. Anyone have any ideas on how we can come to a happy medium? Please help.

Answer 1

I've been going through the same thing. I'm in Australia with my fiance and his family and my family is in Ohio, USA. I'd almost recommend saving yourself the trouble of planning and elope. I know that sounds awful but we've been planning our wedding for 1.5 years now, with 1 year to go and we've done this wedding location juggle. We're both so sick of it. Each time we've set a place, my parents have come back and liked it...until 2 months later and they then say they won't be able to make it there. It's been a total nightmare. lol.

There are some nice packages for two at locations such as Hawaii for real cheap. It's just the both of you and the officiant. Romantic, quaint, and hassle free. And more importantly, you won't feel like me...being stretched in two directions with my future parents in laws on one side and my parents on the other. It's cause us more frustrations, headaches, and tears...all for a ceremony that lasts 10-15 mins.  

Answer 2

Traveling Can Be Quite Inconvenient For People For Weddings. I Know You Can't Really Help It, But I Think Maybe You Should Look At Who You'd Invite & If You Can, Possibly Have The Wedding In The Place Where Most People Live Out Of All The Guests.

My Cousin Is Getting Married In A Few Months & His Fiance Insisted On Being Married At Her Mothers House, But It's 5+ Hours Drive Away & Out Of The 100 Guests She Invited, Only 3 Don't Have To Travel, So 97 People Are Inconvenienced.

Answer 3

If you have a destination wedding and would like to share your ceremony with those who can't attend I would recommend choosing a venue that offers webcasting. Most webcasting services will have your wedding available to view for 30 months and can broadcast it simultanously. That way you could still send out invitations but instead of information about the reception they could contain the password to the video of your wedding.

Answer 4

how far away is real far away?if the close family and friends that you talk about live pretty much in the same area what about doing a destination wedding to their  area i never liked the idea of destination wedding i guess its because we dont have that kind of money to throw one or attend one for that matter and if the person was special to me i would feel rotten missing out on sharing this day with them..if you dont want to do one where they live what about somewhere in the middle you could do it real laid back have a family memeber be the one that marries you you could have the reception in state park or if you have family with a big yard do it bbq style with things that make it unique we had ours on family land got married in the apple orchard then had the reception in the barn you can be as unique as you want you dont have to have all the bells and whistles unless you want to you could always elope as long as you could deal with the hurt feelings because there is bond to be some....or invite a handful of people to "elope" with you i know its a controdiction but you dont have to go alone it just makes it simple so you dont have to plan all the extras its all provided you could do just a small church ceromoney if your religous then go out to a resturant with the small group you want to celabrate bottom line is its your day do what you want even if its not the normal thing to do whats important is being with friends and family who love you :) congratulations and good luck

Answer 5

That's awesome! A woman who knows what she wants! You go girl! Well, I too, think the hassles of planning a reception are way too much. If you just want a nice time with family, then do it where you live people will travel to your hometown to get together for your wedding. You can have it at someone's house. A small gathering, all you have to worry about is drinks and food. Other than that...nothing else really matters except you're marrying the love of your life!