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Wedding in h**l!?

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I'm thinking of having a wedding of about 100-150 my parents want like 400 people cuz they know so many people!! They want to invite everyone!

It's horrible and out of my control. I don't mean to sound ungrateful but the wedding list has reached sky high. I don't even know about 50% of the people. And a few on the list do not like me! This is horrible.

What can I do without hurting my parent's feelings?

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You can sit both your parents down and try to tell them your feelings. But, if they are paying...hon...you are their baby and this is their one time to throw you the party (they think) of your life! Sit back, hold on, and ride it out the best you can. Just remember...at the end of the day...you are going home with him and that is what truly matters!
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OK! just them that you want to plan the wedding of your dream and that this is your opportunity to do something on your own! something beautiful for you and your future partner! they will understand! good luck!
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I agree with them, it's not their wedding. You should be the one who will decide not them.
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Tell thim you Love them and you appreciate what their trying to do. But, you would prefer a more simple wedding.
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Who is paying for the wedding?

If you are you determine how mny invites Mom & Dad get for their personal guests, and that's all they get...ditto with the in-laws. If your in-laws are paying for it, I'm sure they will lay down the law on how many people your parent's can invite. if your parents are paying, then you're stuck.....good luck.
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Threaten to elope if they don't listen to you.

When I got married the minister said that the only people that should be invited to the wedding are those that belive in the marriage.

The ones that love you and will support you throughout your life.

If I had to do it again, I would pay for it myself so I could control who was invited and who wasn't.

Your wedding sounds like a 3 ring Circus.  It is getting out of hand and if you don't nip it in the bud it will be to late to tell them that they are getting out of hand and you don't want all those people there.

Talk to them as soon as possible.  Good luck
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Sit them down and explain to them that it's important that you know most of the people who are coming.

tell them you want to be able to talk to everyone and introduce them to your wife, having people there who you don't know will make the best night of you life very difficult
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IF you are paying for it then you have every right to say thats too many poeple and you dont want people there that you dont know.... im the same way BUT his parents are paying for the wedding ( we are already married just not through church) and they want to invite over 300 poeple we just want about 180 but since they are paying for it there is not much we can do at this point if they want to pay for everyone....
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Well if you're old enough to get married, then you're old enough to talk to your parents as an adult. Simply tell them it's out of control and they need to trim down the list...if it were me I would just elope..save yourself a headache.
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If your parents are the ones paying for the entire reception be grateful and let them invite as many people as they like. If you and your fiance are the ones paying then let them know that you wanted a more "intimate" wedding and you only want to invite your closest friends and family. Congratulations and Good Luck!
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Tell them it's your wedding and not theirs.
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Its your wedding not theirs.
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why don't u suggest to them while they might wanna share the joy with the whole world, your ideal wedding is to share your happiness with ppl who you had known really well and whom would truly feel happy for you on ur wedding day? not those who u dunno, and definitely not those who hate u...

tell them u want the wedding to be intimate and family and very close frds only~ then offer to send an online wedding album to those they'd wished to invite but couldn't.

best of luck. don't be too stressed out... ~~ and lastly, congrats :)
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