Wedding invitation etiquette...addressing.

Question

This is a ten yr couple that are not married...both have been married before and neither is a widow or er.

Mr. John Smith & Mrs. Jane Johnson

999 Thier Street

New York, NY 90091

or what ever...is that right how I address the man first and then the woman with both their proper name??? thanks ppl!!!

Answer 1

I feel most wedding etiquette is total bs.  But yes, that sounds correct.

She may prefer Ms.  as she is not married to Mr. Johnson anymore.  

Answer 2

Yes, it is definitely "Ms" not "Mrs"

If you are having two envelopes (outer and inner) you would address the OUTER envelope:

Mr Johnathan Smith

999 Their Street

New York, NY 90091

And the INNER envelope:

Mr Johnathan Smith

Ms Jane Johnson

If you're only doing one envelope, it would be:

Ms Jane Johnson

Mr Johnathan Smith

(Woman First)

http://www.paperpotpourri.invitations.co...

Answer 3

The honour of the presence of / The pleasure of the company of

BLANK LINE

is requested on the occasion of the marriage of

Ms. Betty Bride, daughter of

Mr. James Totaljerk

Ms. Janet Totaljerk Newman

to Mr. Lucky Groom, son of ...

You print the invitations with a blank space to write in names. You use the same color ink to write as the invitations are printed in. If the couple fits the Mr & Mrs format and is OK with being addressed that way, then go for it. However a lot of women don't care for that form of address; they have a name of their very own and want to use that, not their hubby's name. If you are writing in two seperate names then it is OK to write them on a single line like this

Mr Henry Hambone and Ms Sandra Soupbone

or to two give each name a line of its own.

A lot of people have etiquette. If it wasn't important then the Miss Manners books wouldn't continue to sell well year after year.  

Answer 4

Ms. Jane Johnson

Mr. John Smith

999 Thier Street

New York, NY 90091

If they're not married, then separate lines and alphabetized by last name.

Answer 5

Actually the others that have commented are wrong, once a Mrs. always a Mrs.  So even though she is no longer married she is still Mrs. Johnson.

I would suggest sending each of them an invitation just inviting them or invite one of the that you are closer to with guest. Or each of them and to not be rude you put "& guest" on the end.

Answer 6

yep you address them seperately. this is correct

Answer 7

Point of order here... The two names would not go on the same line since they are not married. They go on two separate lines like this:

Ms. Jane Johnson

Mr. John Smith

999 Their Street

New York, NY 90091

When both names are on the same line with an "and" between, it indicates marriage.

Hope this helps!

Answer 8

She's no longer married, and she's an adult woman, so it would be Ms.   Otherwise, you got it!!!

Answer 9

For addressing the envelope, you should do the following:

OUTER envelope (formal name):

Mr Johnathan Smith

Ms Jane Johnson

999 Their Street

New York, NY 90091

INNER envelope (informal/personal name, or whatever you call them - Aunt, Uncle, etc):

John & Jane

Answer 10

If Jane is no longer married she's not a MRS.  It's MS. or MISS.  But other than that you're spot on!

Answer 11

Christina Noname

and

John Smith

request the pleasure of your company

at their marriage

Friday the twenty-fourth of April

Two thousand and nine

at four o'clock in the afternoon

St. Joseph's Church

New York, NY

Adult reception to follow

Stephanie's

New York, NY

This is what the program told me to do for proper wedding invitations.  Ladies first.  This is for their second marriages.  Neither of them have been widowed they were both divorced.

Answer 12

Yes, exactly. It's traditional to put the man's name first, although you don't have to: if Jane Johnson is your aunt, for example, and John Smith is her partner but not related to you, you could easily put her name first and it would be perfectly polite.

You're right that some etiquette rules are silly, and most people wouldn't care how you address the envelope, but getting people's names right is just common courtesy and respect. That's the part you want to worry about - not the complicated "etiquette" that goes around it.

Answer 13

Everyone is actually wrong.  If she was married, and still has her married name it would be mrs.  If she is divorced and has her maiden name it is Ms.  That's what etiquette says.  However, most people don't follow etiquette so if you think she'd rather be a Ms. use that...

Also unmarried couples that share a residence you are supposed to alphabetize according to last names.. and they go on separate lines... check out the link I provided.. it explains everything.