Wedding invite...what would you say?

Question

I recently got in contact with a friend from primary school on facebook and she had on her status that she couldn't sleep...so i commented back saying 'is it coz of the excitement of her wedding and all and that hope she has the best day of her life and that all goes well and all the well wishing'. I wasn't expecting her to invite me...its not why I wrote on her wall asking her why she couldnt sleep and mentioned her wedding. Anyway...now she has invited me to her wedding. What should I say back? She said to let her know if I could make it. It is this weekend. It's not as if I was meant to be invited. Oh nooo...what have i got myself into. I mean I would love to go but it seems like a forceful invite right? She said it would be 'great to catch up'. whatcha think? yes or no?

Answer 1

Keep in mind that her wedding is not going to be an opportunity to "catch up" - she is going to have 100 or so family and friends to chit-chat with, and she's going to be busy with cake, dancing, dinner, toasts, and her new husband.

If you want to go, that's fine. But if you don't want to go, just say, "That's so nice of you to invite me, but I have prior plans. I hope you have a beautiful wedding!"

Answer 2

Your wall comment (or however you messaged her) gave the impression you felt left out at not being invited and indirectly guilt-tripped her.  Go for the sake of your friend but be careful next time.

Answer 3

if i was you i would go. she has been kind enough to invite you so at least show your face. if you go & feel really uncomfortable then make an excuse to go, least you made the effort, is she allowing you to bring someone? because you best off going with someone you know so you aren't sat on your own. hope this helps :]

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Answer 4

I don't think she felt manipulated into inviting you to her wedding...if she did, she wouldn't have invited you! Sounds like she genuinely wants to catch up with an old friend. Go to the wedding and have FUN! You sound like the over analyising type (I'm the same way). Stop over thinking the situation and go to the wedding. You will have a blast! and who knows...you may meet the man of YOUR dreams there :)

Answer 5

I say go to the wedding. I mean maybe because you reached out to her she really does want to catch up. You might have a good time and reconnect with a old friend. What is the worst that can happen???

Answer 6

Just go and enjoy it!

It was meant to be but I would comment if you get the chance that you wasn't angling for an invite but feel privelaged to be there.

Make a fuss of her and don't go empty handed.

Have a great time!

Answer 7

I think she was just being friendly and cordial.  If you want to go, I would answer Yes and go to the wedding.  If it is an inconvenience for you, then I would answer back  (no) but with a little note:  that regretfully you won't be able to make the wedding but you will certainly keep in touch with her and maybe at a future time you and she can get together.  P.S.  You could enclose a gift card for any denomination you feel is appropriate if you decide not to attend.

Answer 8

If you feel uncomfortable say sorry I al ready have plans! You said it's short notice so that's an okay excuse.

Answer 9

i would say i couldn't make it, just so she knew you weren't pushing for an invite. wish her all the best and  tell her you'd love to catch up once the wedding/honeymoon is over.

Answer 10

It depends how she did it. if she said: 'sure, come to my wedding!' it might be a joke. but if she wrote 'i'd be really pleased if you came to my wedding' she might be sincere.

Do you want to go? if no, say you're sorry but you're busy that weekend. if you can't go, promise to meet her and her new husband at a later unspecified date.

if you do want to go and can, send back 'If you want me to be there, I'll make sure I'll come. Not sure if I'll have a work meeting on that day or not though, so if I can't come, I promise to meet at a later date'

Is she inviting you to the church ceremony (or civil ceremony) and/or the reception?

Answer 11

I love facebook!! haha

Why not go along? Sounds like she'd like you to go along, so if you don't have other plans I'd go if I were you. Doesn't sound to me like you forced her to invite you, she would probably like you there and your concern was the perfect opportunity to invite you, she might have felt that she couldn't invite you as you had grown apart, but now that contact has been made she has remembered the fun times you had together when you were young. Also, someone else has probably dropped out and she wants you to make up the numbers as she has paid per head!! lol

Go along and enjoy yourself...if you're single weddings are a great place to meet new people too!! Have fun!!

Answer 12

NO

Answer 13

I have also been catching up with old friends on Facebook.  If I had caught up with any one of them before my wedding, I would have gladly added them to the guestlist, even at the last minute... if they wanted to come.

Answer 14

go and have a good time and catch up with her..

Answer 15

I really wouldn't worry about it.  I would go, but don't expect to "catch up"...the bride will be plenty busy and overwhelmed.  There were several people at my wedding that barely got a hug and "thanks for coming".  She knows how many people her reception can hold, she wouldn't have invited you if she didn't want you there...even if you were an "after thought"  :)  Bring a nice gift and enjoy yourself!

Answer 16

That's ridiculous, you were just trying to be nice, she shouldn't have felt obligated to invite you.  If you want to go, then go.

Answer 17

whats the worst that can happen?! you said she was an old friend, you can both have a catch up!!