ok, long story short. during my depression about alittle over a year ago,it was found that fiance cheated on me. We went thru all the regular hoopla and with counseling i decided that he was worth working it out. But, only once will i forgive that behavior. So, he started building his trust back and things were going well with him promising not to ever do that again to me. So, never bringing it up again, we moved on. To today and our wedding being weeks away. He is bugging the F out!!!! I mean, according to him, I am doing something behind his back. He's acting over jealous to the point of even checking up on me while out with girlfriends. truly embarrassing. you know what they say, that when a man is acting like that, he is doing something and he's guilty. I want to believe that he learned his lesson the first time and wouldnt think of doing it again. especially after almost losing his family, but why is he acting this way. I thought that maybe he set his mind up to believe that I am going to pay him back, but i reassured him that I am not that person and if he thinks that I am ,then we do not need to be together. Last night, i went and had a few drinks with two of my girlfriends and then afterwards we went to a regular place to grab something to eat (to go),, we see some old school friends we knew (male and female), gave hugs and were briefly chatting. i go to get my cell phone to store a number and he is calling. i answer and he starts yelling at me and says something about the guy i was talking to.. so that told me he was outside. i step outside and i see him walking all fast to the car. i follow and when i get to his car, he drives right pass me. i was sooo embarrassed out my mind. on the ride home, i was sitting there trying to figure out what just happened and i got angry. this is starting to be a problem and if it involves him feeling like he cant trust me, we dont have any foundation to stand on like i thought. this behavior has just started in the last month or so. why? i dont know. i am home all the time with the kids. he comes home when he feels like it and no one is supposed to say a word. its do as i say, not as i do. I dont work that way. this is scaring me and while i am so inlove with this man and want to spend the rest of my life with him, i cant help but entertain the thought of cutting my losses and calling off the wedding. how are we supposed to enjoy each other when he is acting this way. Yes,he cheated, but I dont believe in that. I woudnt do that to him. If someone wants to be with other people then they shouldnt be in a relationship at all. less stress and problems,plus you arent putting someones feelings on the chopping block. When i got in last night, i thanked him for embarrassing me over nothing and then ignored him completely and went to sleep. i dont have anything to say to him. He owes me an apology and explanation of his actions. I have put up with a lot throughout the years and this drama at this point is not what i need.we should be pass this kiddie games and enjoying each other as two loving adults. What to do, what to do?
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