Wedding party gifts to the bride and groom?

Question

My boyfriend and I are going to his friend's wedding, and we already purchased something (sort of expensive) for them out of their registry. He's a groomsman, and I have also heard that groomsmen traditionally buy an extra gift for the groom. Is this universal? Seems like it would be expecting a lot of money from us/him with a wedding gift, tux rental, travel expenses, AND a groomsman gift.

Answer 1

it's usually the other way. the groom buys for the men that stand up for him.

Answer 2

i've never heard of that and I've been in and seen my share of weddings.  dont worry about it!

Answer 3

or just get him a six pack of beer and say he'll meet up with them on their honeymoon to help drink it!

Answer 4

Normally, it's one or the other - either the groomsmen each buy a wedding gift, OR they all go in together on a gift. Not both. If the other groomsmen are chipping in to get the couple something, your boyfriend should just say that the two of you have already gotten a gift. Then he's off the hook.

Answer 5

no i dont think its necessaryy...

i mean you can if u want but im going to be a bridesmaid n a friends wedding and i got them a nice gift also but im not getting them anything extra

Answer 6

No....a groomsgift is what the groom gets for his groomsman.  Your bf should be getting a gift tfrom the groom "thanking" him for everything.  

You should still toss a few bucks their way to cover the price of your plates...but thats it.

Answer 7

Absolutely not.  Usually, the GROOM buys a gift for the groomsmen as a thank you.

Answer 8

I've never heard of that being done. Usually it's the other way around and the groom buys a gift for each of the groomsmen.

Answer 9

No, it is not customary for the groomsmen to pitch in and get something else.  Now the groom usually buys his men something (cuff links, tie, watch, a special team hat that might mean something to all the guys) but not the other way around.  weddings do end up costing quite a bit, and even if they all wanted to get him something on top of an individual gift, it is not mandatory.  

So go to the wedding and enjoy yourselves.

Answer 10

Never heard of it, and we did not expect "extra" gifts at our wedding.

God bless!

Answer 11

I've never heard of it. Have him talk to the other groomsmen. Possibilities:

No one's ever heard of this, don't worry

Everyone else is doing it, you're possibly stuck

They're all going in together on something, he can negotiate his share

They're getting some sort of gag gifts, won't cost too much.

I agree that an extra gift, given how much it costs to be in the wedding party, is a big excessive.

Answer 12

i have never heard of this. usually the groom buys a gift for his groomsmen {a groomsmen gift} as a thank you for standing up for him.

Answer 13

being that you already have them a gift i would not get him anything big for the second gift . He should be happy that you got them a good first gift

Answer 14

I think it is the other way around...

the bride gives her bridesmaids and maid of honor gifts

and the groom gives his groomsmen and best man gifts.

The best man and groomsmen are responsible for the bachelor party.

no worries :o)

Answer 15

I've never heard of that being done.