1. Niece #1 and her fiance are in medical school. Because of their massive student loans, they can't afford a wedding. They elope, so no one in the family attends a wedding. The newlyweds move into in a small, cheap apartment near the university furnished with hand-me-downs from their parents.
2. Niece #2 is a corporate executive, and she marries a billionaire. They invite you, the extended family, and 1,000 of their friends and business associates to a wedding that costs them at least $200 per plate. The bride and groom each own a fully furnished home.
3. Neither - you get them a gift of the same dollar amount.
The genesis of this question is a trend I've observed in the Weddings forum. Brides who are planning to elope have asked whether they can create a registry. There seems to be a groundswell of support for the notion that couples who elope or have very small weddings don't EVER deserve gifts because they snubbed their families by not throwing an event. There is also a growing faction that seems to believe that a guest is obligated to give a gift of sufficient value to cover the cost of their reception dinner. What do you think of all this?
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