Wedding question about Matron of Honor and Bridesmaids?

Question

I have a question that is probably pretty stupid, but I honestly have no idea! My boyfriend and I are getting married next year, and I'm trying to get started on making plans. My first question is whether your matron of honor normally wears the same dress as your bridesmaids or do they typically wear a different dress? Also, how many colors are in most wedding themes? I've been hearing a lot of people say one, but my sister had two colors in her wedding theme. And, if you have two colors, say, pink and a soft green, would you have your bridesmaids wear the same color as your matron of honor? Or would they wear different colors, like the matron of honor wear the soft green and the bridesmaids wear pink? Age is playing a big role in my wedding party, because I have quite an assortment of girls:

Matron of honor: my sister who is 32

Bridesmaids: my sister-in-law who is 25, and my best friend who is 21

Junior Bridesmaid: my niece who is 10

Flowergirls: my nieces who are 6 and 2, and my boyfriends niece who is 4.

So, I'm a little confused about the colors and what everyone is supposed to wear. I want my junior bridesmaid to have the same dress as my bridesmaids, but I just wasn't sure about whether or not the matron of honor is supposed to wear the same dress as the bridesmaids, and how many colors most weddings typically have in their color schemes. Any advice and input will be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

Here's the great news - it can be whatever you want!

The MOH, BMs, and junior BM can ALL wear the same outfit if you want. The key here will be making sure that whatever you choose for the older girls is also appropriate for a 10-year-old.

Often, junior BMs wear dresses of the same color and fabric as the BMs and MOH, but cut more modestly around the bust, etc. Most bridal stores will be able to show you dress lines that include coordinating/matching outfits for junior BMs.

Your MOH can wear the same outfit as the BMs, or the same dress in a different color, or the same color and fabric in a different style. It depends on what suits your taste (and hers).

The cutest outfits I've ever seen for flower girls was at a cousin's wedding. She had three little nieces as the flower girls, and each of them wore a different bold pastel - yellow, coral, and pink. Her bridesmaids wore jade green and carried yellow, coral, and pink bouquets. It was adorable.

Answer 2

Usually 2 colors in a wedding with an accent like white, silver, cream or another neutral. The Maid of Honor should wear the same color as all of the maids and junior maids. The flower girls usually wear white.  

Answer 3

We used two colors in our wedding. All the bridesmaids wore the same color and the guys had the other color on their vests.  

Good luck

Answer 4

You can do it any way you want.

I had two colors - chocolate brown and apple green.  My maid of honor and bridesmaid both had the same color (chocolate brown) but different dresses and then my flowergirls had green dresses.

Answer 5

It's really all up to you.  I was in a wedding where hydrangeas were used liberally around the venue, and the girls' dresses were each a color of hydrangea - one each of blue, pink, green and lavender, with a multicolored jacket with all the colors in it.  Another had everyone wearing the same dress with one of the theme colors, and the other color was in the flowers.

As for the junior bridesmaid, having her in the same dress or not will depend on what style you put on the older maids.  If you choose a strapless dress for your maids, then pick a similar style with straps for your junior, as a ten-year-old would not look age-appropriate in a strapless dress.  Your junior is still a child and shouldn't be put in a gown that looks too adult.

Answer 6

maid of honer  wears the main  theme color maids alternate color or each a different color your choice but maid of honer is your right hand and wears the color base of the wedding can have as many colors as you like rainbow its all about you and what you really want know rules is the theme of today's weddings go get brides mag. wonderful reference and a  world of information only rule no one wares the color of the bride wither you ware ice blue are white anything goes

Answer 7

TYPICALLY there are 2 or 3 colours.

The M.O.H typically wears a different style dress, or she has an added sash, something that makes her stand out a little more to show everyone she is your M.O.H.

Just do whatever works for you.

My best friend had me wear a pillbox hat (the old fashion ones) to make me "stand out" but I still wore the same dress as the other girls. I thought it was cute and different from the normal.

Answer 8

Well Jessie all of this is truly up to you. Colors are a personal choice that you (and your boyfriend?) should make. You can have a color palette or you can just have one color. Most couples in my experience chose more than one color so that the color doesn't seem repetitive when it's incorporated throughout the wedding decor and dress.

As for your dresses. Again it's your choice. If you like a more uniform look then I'd go for matching dresses. This can be a problem if not everyone in your bridal party has the same body type. Some brides chose to let their bridal party have different dresses so that people can flatter their own individual style and body types. There is no written rule that says your matron of honor has to wear the same color as the rest of your bridesmaids. She may prefer to wear the same color and a different dress (a choice a friend's maid of honor made) or she may choose to wear a different dress in a different color. I would discuss dresses with the girls, not saying that you're letting them pick and see if people have similar tastes to yours. If they don't, it's one day they'll wear the dress and hopefully donate it to charity. If they do, they've got an addition to their wardrobe with great memories of your wedding attached to it. Take my advice: Don't sweat color schemes and uniformity if it's not important to you. If you have any other questions, just ask! And congrats!