Wedding vow renewal on 14th anniversary after 2 year separation. Ideas and help?

Question

My husband and I were separated for 2 years and our divorce was almost completed....the only step left to complete was the final hearing. We have since decided to get back together and would like to have a vow-renewal ceremony on our 14th anniversary (Nov. 2). There are things I'd like to include this time around that I didn't do the first time, such as have my hair and makeup done, release butterflies at the ceremony, etc.... I've looked at some sites already, but I'm looking for more DOs and DON'TS.....and suggestions....I want this to be a really neat and memorable occasion, but I don't want it to be socially unacceptable in any way (for example, I know that it's inappropriate to ask for gifts at a vow renewal). What is acceptable to do? We plan to get new rings as we both pawned our originals, having not planned on getting back together! LOL We want our 9 year old daughter and 7 year old son to be involved, but we're not sure exactly how.....our daughter has always wanted to be a flower girl and has never had the opportunity....would that be OK? Any ideas and input would be greatly appreciated! Thanks. :)

Answer 1

My husband and I renewed our vows in Niagara Falls. There are many places at the falls to get married. They have gardens,you can get remarried in front of the falls.

Answer 2

A casual wedding at a park, at the beach or in the backyard would be wonderful, especially with the butterflies.

Of course, your children should be involved, flower girl and ring bearer are perfect.

We also included our children in our ceremony, and married as a family.  We all got rings and pledged to the family as a whole.

Gifts are not important, and I would leave that up to the guests.  I would not even mention it.

The most important thing is your vows, let the kids have a line to say also.  After all, they are a part of the ceremony and should be included.

The reception should be your choice, how much do you want to spend?  Simple is easy, less expensive and less stressful, but is depends on what you can afford.

Make sure you include the kids in the ceremony.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

isnt it about the 'vows' and not the frivolty?  anyway, good job working things out...if the wedding bash is necessary to renew vows...go for it.

Answer 4

Glad you two found your way back to each other.

Basically the "don'ts" include just realizing that it's not 'another' wedding - it's a vow renewal. So you have a ceremony or blessing somewhere - you just in a pretty dress, him in a suit; no attendants, though of course you could have your children involved by standing by you, for example. Then, plan a dinner at your home, and basically an anniversary party.. just for family and close friends to celebrate with you.