Wedding with no guests?

Question

Hi i'm getting married in Jamacia next year (i'm from the uk) and we have decided to have no guests,just us. we have done this as we feelit would be forcing people to gt the money/time off to come to our wedding and also we want to relax and no be worrying if every one is having a good time etc. Plus i HATE being centre of attention! we are going to have a party when we get back for all family and frinends. Is this unusual to have no guests at your wedding or does everyone think its weird!?

Answer 1

LOL, that sounds funny. What the point of the wedding then, just get register,

What a good idea, I'm gonna have a party with no guest

Answer 2

No its not weird....its your wedding, you can do whatever you like.  Around where I'm from, it is quite normal for people to go off and get married, and then when they get back just have a big reception with pictures from your wedding and honeymoon.  So go for it! It would be beautiful!!! Good Luck with all the planning!!  

Answer 3

I think you have to have the wedding that feels right for you. It's good that when you get back you will allow friends and family to celebrate with you and feel that they will be part of this joyous time in your life. But your wedding should be your own on your own terms. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Do whatever you are happy with. The wedding is incidental the marriage is what is important.

Answer 5

I want to do that eventually, I want my wedding to be personal, romantic and with hundreds of guests I don't understand how it could feel this intimate. My only fear would be offending friends and family because they don't see the actual wedding. Have you thought about witnesses? and it's not weird, it's your wedding day, you should enjoy it how you like :) x*x

Answer 6

I think it's a fantastic idea!  Myself and my husband married in Gretna Green and were going to have no guests initially, but he caved in and wanted his mum and dad along, the thing is that they are divorced and remarried and so we were up to four, so I decided I'd like my parents along (6) and his sister at the time was only young, so she had to come, (7) and he has three brothers all with partners who would've got upset, (13), to even things up a bit I invited my brother (14) and my dear Aunt and Uncle (16!).  I'm glad the way it turned out though, it was lovely.

Answer 7

It is somewhat unusal, even though you will be having a gathering when you come back, I have a feeling that your closest family ie-parents, siblings etc.. will still feel left out as it is also an important day for them to see you making your vows. I also don't like being the centre of attention, but I'm sure you would still be able to be comfortable with your closest family members around you. At the end of the day it's up to them whether they want to come or not or have a good time. I understand what you are saying but don't forget your nearest and dearest.

Answer 8

hello!

first of all, Congrats :))

well, it's good if you don't like being the center of attention...and dont want to be worried thinking about the guests...then it's good! have a great time among urself! and i do not think it's wierd, at all! ^_^

Answer 9

I did the same thing when I got married last time (2nd time next Feb!), apart from my mum was there. We invited the other parents but they wouldn't come. We had a party when we got back but to be honest it felt a little false, kind of like having a Christmas party in January!

You'll still need witnesses so do you want some random stranger's signature on your wedding certificate or would you prefer to rethink & have someone you know on there? Maybe just invite parents or closest friends and say that the evening is yours and that they will have to entertain themselves. That way you still get to relax (and Jamaica is beautiful) but have someone outside the couple to share the memories with. I agree the cost/time off work side is tricky, but there are ways and means of doing it!

Good luck whatever you decide.

Answer 10

Good for you. We didn't have any guests when we married. Short, fuss free and cheap. Getting married is about making your commitment legal but, unfortunately, many people turn it into an orgy of showing off and attention seeking.

Answer 11

I think you are selling people short not ot even give them the option of coming to the wedding.  How do you know who can afford what.  I feel sorry for your mother I know how badly she will feel to miss your wedding, your dad too.  A wedding is not just about the couple getting married it is an important family rite and some folk only get to see the family when there is a wedding....or a funeral.  Don't be so selfish just because you do not like to be the center of attention.  Everyone should be in the spotlight at least once in their lives.  I think you are doing yourself a great disservice and you are cheating your family out of something important.

Answer 12

You should at least have your parents and siblings.

Answer 13

No, no, no! Not weird at all! It's exactly what my fiance and I are thinking of doing. I feel the same as you about centre of attention. I hope you have a wonderful time - yay!

Answer 14

congrats!

My Friend just got married in Jamaica. We are from the USA. She was expecting to have over 200 people fly to Jamaica  for her wedding. However it is really expensive to fly there and then the hotel was also very high. She claimed that she got a discount from the resort but $300 a night is very high for me to have to pay. I did not end up going nor did a lot of her friends due to there budget. I think she had maybe 100 people come if that. From what I heard about the wedding and all. The Jamaicans at the resort were trying to get every penny out of her.They Brought her the wrong cake and then told her that she would have to pay more for the other cake. She also said that the jamaicans were creepy and all they wanted was more $.

Be careful... Make sure that you spend a little extra to be in a safe place!

I would try to have the wedding where your family can be present at least.

Answer 15

I don`t think it is wierd after all it`s your day and should be just how you want. However saying that my wife would be devasted if her daughter got married and she wasn`t there.

Good luck and hope it goes well...

Answer 16

Make sure you get LOTS of pictures!

Since you are not including your family, it would be nice to have a lot of pictures to show them when they feel left out.

Answer 17

its entirely up to you its YOUR wedding. Aparty afterwards is a good idea. But if you go ahead i think you still need 2 witnesses.

Answer 18

it's sad

Answer 19

hey!! it's your wedding so you make your own traditions plus you get the honeymoon started before you even get married which is a bonus!! weddings can get so stressful and if i was to get married all over again i would have a resort wedding somewhere with a few people!! PLUS at the celebrating when you get back you can have a slide show with all the pictures from your holidays which everyone will LOVE!! I think it's great ..people get married in Vegas all the time alone or worse, drunk ..so i think it's awesome you two are making it romantic!!

Answer 20

Me and my fiance are thinking about doing the same thing.  We're paying for the wedding ourselves. Neither of us like or want a big wedding.  We'll probably book ourselves a nice holiday and get married there.  Less hassle and we can have the kind of day we want and not the day that our guests want.

So either it's normal or we're both strange :)

We would prefer to have the wedding day to ourselves but if people complain we will tell them where we're going.  However if we go for that option we will book somewhere very expensive to try and discourage people.

Oh and we're going to throw a party when we get back from the wedding, but it will be be strictly no presents!

Answer 21

The thing about getting married in front of your Family and friends is that they are ALL present as witnesses, the idea is that you get married in the eyes of YOUR community, your vows are heard by everybody, everybody knows (for sure) that you are married and therefore knows that you are unavailable and dedicated to each other. You then have a honeymoon period away from all of your friends and family to be with each other, ideally somewhere exotic like Jamaica.

Some people nowadays confuse the wedding with the honeymoon, some only really want an excuse for a holiday.

To go away as you intend and exclude all of your friends and family is most definitely the thing to do if you are embarrassed about whom you are marrying, if you don't really want to marry, if you wish to continue your lives as single people when you return or if you have no real intention of staying together.

Otherwise, stop being shy, include your family and friends in a small wedding here, then go on your honeymoon. If you do stay together, you may regret NOT having your family present and lets face it; who would want their families on the honeymoon with them?

Answer 22

Do what you want to do... & dont do it any other way!  Its your special day & you should have it how u want it!......    There were only 6 guests at my wedding... it was a great day.  

Answer 23

You can do whatever you want, its your wedding.  However, it would be nice to at least have both yours and your fiance's parents there.

Answer 24

atleast your parent and grand parents they probably fream about it plus you need witnesses

Answer 25

i think that's really cool! hey it's ur wedding so u can do whatever u want! and i hate being the center of attention too, so if i were getting married, i would consider having a wedding with no guests since it seems interesting. =) congratulations btw! =D good luck at the wedding!  

Answer 26

you have the right to decide how u want ur wedding to be...but, don't you think it would be nice having some close ones to witness ur special day??

just get ur immediate family and really close friends... just ppl whom you know really cares for you..whether or not you put up a grand wedding, they should already just be happy to be a part of ur day!!

Answer 27

what not even your parents?  thats really bad!

Answer 28

it is you wedding and you are able to have it the way you want being as it is your day so do it the way you have chose to do and thake photos to share with family and friends when you have your party

Answer 29

anything you want , but maybe your parents , after all maybe they would have wanted to see one of their children get married ,just maybe, anyway congrats and have fun !

Answer 30

i think it makes your wedding more special when it's just the two of you. your vow is for the two of you and God.

weddings are a superficial show & are an expensive display of your love

Answer 31

Not weird my auntie and uncle didnt tell anyone they were getting marrieed and did it abroad. they had a party for everyone when they returned and recorded the wedding to show people who wanted to see it.

Its your special day do what you like.