Weddings these days, whats the norm acceptable amount that couples expect in cards?

Question

or should you put the amount that you could afford, im going to a wedding and i feel pressure to keep up with all the other guests, but they are so much better off than me, what would you put in

Answer 1

they will be happy with any amount, at the end of the day people get married because they love each other not because they want money. just put in what you can afford, weddings are expensive enough as it is!

Answer 2

When my husband and I were in college and living on Ramen Noodles, we were invited to a very fancy wedding put together by people that were much better off than we were.  We looked at everything on their registry and ended up buying one champainge flute that cost us about $50.00, one of the cheapest things on the list.

We never received a thank you card.  

Well, we never really associated with these people again.  I don't know if we were offended or if they avoided us because they were, but it pretty much ruined the relationship.  

I don't want to scare you, but the possibilities that they'll be offended are there and you need to be prepared.  Is the bride going to open her presents in front of all the guests or take them home and open them later.  Do you want to be standing there when she opens her one champainge flute and your card in front of all those people and then as politely as she can singles you out with her thank you?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not upset to have lost this couple's friendship.  I think they were completely pompous.  I just want you to prepare yourself.

Answer 3

When my niece married last year I gave them £50 one of my good friends daughter I gave £30, my daughters friend who she shared house with at uni  is getting married next Saturday I'll give £20, I live on my own and I don't work so I think it's enough from me

Answer 4

Your presence and a card would be the greatest gift ever hun :)

Answer 5

Give what you can afford or not to give.  Don't feel bad.  I don't know what they expect.  They should not expect a certain amount.  What ever you want to give them, that will help them out, and they not you should be grateful for what ever.

Answer 6

They should be grateful for anything they get - and if they are not satisfied, then that shows how shallow and self absorbed they are

Answer 7

depends how you know them and how long you have known them.

Answer 8

I think $25-50 is sufficent. That's what I usually give.   If you're like an aunt, uncle or grandparents maybe a little more.

Answer 9

$125 / person  Not less, I go to a lot of weddings and this is the least you can give.

Answer 10

What you can afford is acceptable, I would say. Don't feel pressured by other guests, no point in going short yourself just for appearances sake!

Answer 11

Don't bother with it, just buy a nice webcam and hook it up for them ;)

Answer 12

Just put what you can afford in. If someone looks down on you for that then they are the one with the problem.

Keeping up with the Jones is a fallacy.

Answer 13

£10 of thoughtful present for the couple is better than £50 cash in the card put some effort into choosing if you're skint and that will be just as appreciated if not more.  

Answer 14

Here in Ireland a couple give €200.One person would be €100.Nothing to stop you buying an actual present and you could get a good sale bargain of some quality item they need at a price you can afford.

Answer 15

Have they asked for money? Cheeky sods.

I would definitely only put in what you can afford. Doesn't matter what anyone else is doing they aren't the ones who will suffer if you go over what you can manage..

Answer 16

Just bung them £20, times is hard!