Weekend parents (parents that only have there kids on weekends)?

Question

How do you deal with not having your kids there all week? and knowing that they are spending more time with the mother/father and step parent? I am having a hard time dealing with it, knowing that my kids are seeing there mom and her boyfriend who lives with them more then there own dad.. it hurts and I don't know how to deal with it I miss them alot and the week seems so slow once i get out of work and get home and wish they was there.

Answer 1

Maybe ask if you could do a Wednesday dinner thing with them? Go out to dinner every Wednesday or have them over. That may help things on your end. That'll only work if you're on good terms with your ex. Are they old enough for scouts, dance, sports, etc? If so, you can drive them back and forth, or go to practice, meetings, games, or even joining their school's PTA will help you stay connected to their lives. Make sure to attend every parent meeting at school, plays, concerts, etc.

Answer 2

ohhhh i feel so sad for you. i don't know how you feel but i can imagion how hard that must be! the only thing i can suggest is quality time is better than quantity time. my guess would be that their mothers boyfriend doesnt actually sit down and spend one on one time with your children, they may live in the same house but that doesn't mean they spend lots of time together. when you have your kids be sure to spend every moment with them. let them know how much you miss them. make the week end count!!! i'm sure they are missing you as much as you are missing them. but lots of families are in this situation and some how make it work. good luck to you and your family :)

Answer 3

Maybe if possible you can arrange a different visitation status(I'm assuming this is the current visitation arrangement) See if you can switch to every other week instead of only weekends. Like she has them one week you have them the next.  If its a matter of a sitter maybe see if a relative can watch them until you are off work and then take them home.

I would be in your position if hubby and I were divorced and that was the arrangement(he have them through the week and I on the weekends only) I would not be able to cope with that. Talk to your X and see if an  agreement can be made or try to take it to court and get a different ruling.

Best of luck!!!

Answer 4

well my mom took anti depressants

Answer 5

i lived with my mom and two sibilings, and visited my dad every other weekend. To make the time past faster, my dad would call us every couple of days, and when we got older, he would plan a date night with his kids, like he would take me out to dinner, or my brother to go see a movie, or my sister to the ice skating rink. By taking one kid during one day of the week he really got to know each of us and it shortened the time in between seeing us kids, i dont know how you are with your ex, but my mom and dad talked about when he could take us. He also helped shuttle us kids from ballet, soccer, karate, staying late at school. He was always willing to pick us up and drive us over to our mom's house, even though that by itself might only be 15 mins, it was still quality time with him

They got divorced when we were 5, 7, and 9, we are now 16, 17, and 19, and since we can drive, and both parents live close together, we are all free to go and visit our dad whenever we want, the 19 year old actually is living with him, but what i think is the most important, is that even though your not the main parent, they can always confide in you, even though you feel the time is incredibly long, having them have faith in how great you are as a parent should make it easier

Answer 6

can you go back to court and get sharred parenting??? where you have them half the time.