Weird experience has been bugging me

Question

Okay so here is what happened.

I smoked pot with a long time buddy of mine and this other kid we've known for some time. So we are sitting there stoned and I have always thought this kid might be bisexual or g*y because there was a few accounts of when I would be banging on a piano or drums and he would come up behind me and reach both arms kind of "trapping" me. It's happened a few times and I thought it was a little wierd, okay a lot, but it never really bothered me. But last winter we smoked and I was sitting there petting my buddies dog and this kid comes up to me and starts talking about a secret love and how we wont tell anyone. I was really high and was really really disturbed by this, so much so i jsut completely ignored what he was saying and walked away. Then my close friend starts singing about how he likes men but kind of in a mocking way, by the way my close friend left the room before this kid starting whispering sweet nothings in my ear. Anyways, this didnt help me feeling completely creeped out. So ever since I can't go to that kids house, obviously, and have lost trust in people close to me. I feel completely alienated and friggin violated. It's kind of funny as I type this but it really has like really friggin stuck with me and really caused some physcological damage. I think even though i wasnt jumped and man raped by this kid i think he really ****** with my head. Plus i am a passive person so instead of being verbal I just got up and left. I think maybe since I didnt stand up for myself I am acting like someone min raped me. I dont know its a really ****** up scenario but i cant shake the feeling. I used to be really laid back and chill and now im ******* uptight and tense and think everyone is playing head games constantly. Im just curious to see what you guys think. Maybe there is something I can do to be more relaxed and willing to trust people. Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

If the guy's g*y you don't have to hang out with him. If he ever tries it again, try not to get creeped out and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable.

Answer 2

I believe all you need to do is let this friend of yours know that you are not g*y.  I doubt that the guy was trying to mess with you.  You might benefit from some counseling if this situation continues to cause you to be uptight and tense.   This guy sounds like he took advantage of you some but being high might have played a big part of that.  I have no experience being high ( except for alcohol ) but I would guess that people do things they normally wouldn't while high.  I know I did things I am not proud of while under the influence of alcohol.

Take care!

Answer 3

Stop smoking pot and you'll probably feel better.  If you think everyone is playing head games with you then it might be the pot making you paranoid.

Add'l:  So you've stopped the pot, that's good.  My advice is to get yourself out there again and make some better friends.  You can meet good people at church, in clubs, etc.  Also maybe you might think about getting on an anti-anxiety drug like zoloft or lexapro.  Sorry you had to go through that.

Answer 4

dont smoke weed!

Answer 5

Don't worry, if you are not g*y this does not affect your sexuality or if girls will think you are. I had some similar experiences when I was in college. I just said I wasn't g*y and not interested. That was all it took to not be approached in that manner. Being really stoned did not give you the best mental acuity to deal with an awkward situation. That is what made you feel vulnerable and not in control of the situation. Their is real truth to the notion that pot makes you paranoid.

Answer 6

Maybe you should ask your buddy and this other kid if they're actually g*y, straight up. If so, just tell him that the advances and hints are creeping you out, and you just want to be friends. This shouldn't be causing you "psychological" damage. If it's creeping you out a bit, just confront the situation head on, rather than avoiding it. And maybe the kid's not g*y, he might just be very friendly.

Answer 7

I think you are being perfectly rational and normal about this,  I strongly suggest you find someone you can talk this over with..What happened was traumatic.  I know you like to smoke weed, but one of the things about that is it takes part of you away. Maybe if that had happened and you weren't high you could have dealt with it more like you wished you had.  Be accountable and take up for yourself. No one else will.  Weed kills A LOT of brain cells, btw.

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