Weird romantic kinda dream...lake, and a big floralish dress!

Question

Okay,i was 12 at the time, maybe 13. I cant remember. I'm 14 now. I'm going to give you all of my details because I really want to know what happened. I was young, and I went to a school where I stayed in the shadows. I WASN'T goth, I just didn't have any friends. I was a bright person, and I loved life. There was times when i found myself wanting to meet someone to love, to hold. There was times when I just wanted to escape off to a land where no one could find me. My dad was an alocholic, (who left us a year ago, my mom, 4 year old sister, and I) and he was never really close to me. My mom and I were best friends. And my sis I loved with all of my heart. Now, heres my dream:

I was older. I was wearing a big, white floral dress, with pink/maroon satin ribbons, it seemed. A bunch of ladies and I had just been let out of an academy, of some sort. I remember feeling wonderfully happy when I was let out of the school building. It was dark...like it was going to storm. but it never rained. There was a lake, with weeping willows, and everything around it. There was also a gazebo that matched my dress. And when i looked toward the gazebo, there he was. A tall figure, with black curls on his hair. He has green eyes, and a deep voice. Andi remember wanting to collapse into his arms, and i remember loving him. I remember racing down to the bottom of the lake, running into the gazebo, and slinging my arms around him. He kissed me, and twirled me around, and as soon as he got done kissing me, I had to go back up to the academy, and I remember dreading, no, fearing going back into that place. He smiled, and watched me go. (all of the other women had disapeared as soon as i had started running)

I woke up, panting as if i had been running, and my legs were sore..as if i had been running. I had this dream for the next three nights, but i was always wearing a blue dress after this one, and the fourth night, he wasn't there. And the dream faded. I particually miss the man in my dream. I don't know who he was, i just knew that i loved him so much. Can you please tell me what it was all about? Thanks.

Answer 1

This dream deals with the death of ideals, loss of hope, and loss of childhood innocence (not like you are guilty, but not so fresh in mind or heart, due to your griefs).  It's also about growing up.

When you see yourself in the big, white floral dress, this represents your innocent, youthful ideas about romance and the perfect man for you.    The "ladies academy" might represent the kind of school you read about in a romance novel set in the past, when girls went to "finishing school" to become young ladies instead of tomboys!  

You were happy to be growing up (getting out of school) and becoming a woman.  Then the storm comes.  This represents your Dad leaving, and dark times in your life.  But, you still had some dreams of romance and happy ever after.  The gazebo that matches your dress represents the dream of perfect romance.

The guy in the gazebo is your dream of the perfect man for you.  You want someone to love, someone who will hold you and protect you and be true to you.  He also represents joy, and being carefree.

Then, you have to go back to school... probably mean you thought you had love and romance all figured out, but when your Dad left, that changed everything for you and you no longer know how to feel about that.

The blue dress may represent sadness, but it could represent growing as a woman.  Pink is often a color of childlike innocence of heart and mind, but blue is the color that represents faithfulness, and also a more mature approach, because you are more experience in life.  But it would more likely represent sorrow, based on what you've experienced in the last several months.  

After your Dad first left, you still had dreams of that perfect guy and happy ever after, but after seeing the impact his leaving had on your family, your Mom's grief, and all the pain your family has gone through, you start to doubt there is such a thing as true love or "happily ever after."  That is why, after the 4th night, he was no longer there and the dream faded.

These dreams dramatically played out your romantic ideals, and how you were hurt, and how your dreams of true love withered away.

One thing I want to talk to you about now is the "ideal man."  Too many girls get their ideas of the ideal man from looking at celebrities, or reading trashy romance novels.  Sadly, girls end up growing up and marrying guys a lot like the men in these romance novels, and these kind of men might seem exciting at first, but they are NOT the kind of person who would be there for you through good times and bad, love you when you get sick, or change diapers and  clean up barf.  They would never go to the grocery store or go out in the rain at 2 a.m. to get you medicine or just a Coke because you have P.M.S. and REALLY HAVE TO HAVE ONE.  (Not that you can abuse a guy like that very often and keep him in a good mood, but there really are guys who will go that far to take care of their lady!).  

We look at romance as ribbons and roses and kisses by firelight and starlight, but TRUE love wipe your brow when you have a fever, even if it is his birthday, call and cancel the dinner reservations and go out and get you chicken noodle soup if that's all you feel like you can eat.  

TRUE love will wipe your hiney if you've had surgery and cannot reach it yourself and will not get mad if dinner is an hour late because you got caught in traffic and got a speeding ticket on the way home (unless you make a habit of speeding!).  

Get the picture?  

Sweetheart, there REALLY are guys like that in this world, and they don't all have black curls, and some of them are not the greatest with words.  But if you watch how they treat their moms and their sisters and say, "Wow!  What a guy!" and you notice they are not self centered, and they are nice to old people and babies, and are not ashamed to pray over meals at a restaurant, and they don't give the finger to people who slow them down in traffic, and he is more concerned about your needs than his own... these are signs of a guy who knows what really matters, and who is willing to commit to a woman and do what it takes to make a marriage work.  Of course, you'll want to be just as unselfish with him, because he will deserve it, and it takes two to make a special life together.

Don't EVEN expect to find a guy like that until you are grown, but don't settle for anything less than a real man, ok?  If you're crushing on celeb reties, you'll get over that.  Just don't base your real life choices on that.  And don't read trashy romance.  Those books make kidnapping and rape sound romantic, and they are not.  You want a man who will treat you with respect, not like you are a toy for his own pleasure.

I know you long for someone to hold you now, and I know it is hard.  You probably think you are too old for a teddy bear, but I can tell you from experience... when I was going thru some really hard times and my husband was having to travel for his job... a good floppy teddy bear held tightly to the chest does have healing properties!  Especially if you pray to God while you are holding the teddy bear!

You miss having a good dad, and you long for a man who will love you forever.  I want to introduce you to someone who can fill your heart more than any man ever can.  His name is Jesus.  You can ask Him to hold you, and He will.  You won't see Him, but He is real, and He will be with you if you ask Him.  He can even kiss you DEEP down inside where you hurt the most.  He can heal your heart, and get you ready for the man who really is right for you, when that time comes.  He won't cheat on you, and He won't desert you!  I speak from many years of experience.  He is the love that never ends.

Also, begin to pray for your future "one true  love".  Pray that God will bless him, and lead and guide his life.  Pray for God to protect him. Pray that whatever he goes through will make him stronger and a better person.  Pray that he will follow God also, so that God will be can lead him to be the person He created him to be!

In case I"ve confused you a little... Jesus IS God.  He is how God reveals Himself to us.  All you have to do is tell Him you have stumbled and are confused and hurt, and that you want Him to be your Father, your love, your older brother, your strong arm to lean on... your guide in life.  He has promised to do that if you will just ask Him.  Spend time asking... and spend time listening.  He will speak to you in your heart.

God bless you,

Fairelight

Answer 2

thnx for answerin' mine :)

now i had a dream once that i met this handsome guy who protedted me from 5 thugs and i really missed him too .. but u know it's just a dream .. maybe it referes to ur father sense of u barley kno him .. and maybe it's that guy who'll come and take u someday to live in heaven with him .. but just get along with it and njoy ur life .. :) best of luck ;)

Answer 3

I'm glad you gave so many details of your life because it helps with the dream interpretation.

Your dream actually had everything to do with your father. The white, floral dress, feeling happy, getting out of school, the lake, weeping willows and the gazebo were all signs that you thought your life would be so much better after your father left. You stated that you weren't that close to him in real life. But actually we sometimes don't realize how much we need someone until they are gone. The dark almost stormy sky represents the sadness you felt after you dad left but the fact that it didn't actually rain means that you thought his leaving would give you some sort of liberating feeling. The tall male figure with dark hair actually represents your dad. His black hair means that you realize that you have a lot of difficulties to overcome. You truly care about him and had wanted him to love you too and you wanted to be close to him. The fact that he faded out of your subsequent dreams means that you realize that he is really gone and you don't have him with you anymore.

Dreading going back to school means that your life is still not what you want it to be. You continue to have a lot to learn (the school) and you are feeling pretty alone right now (the other ladies in your dream disappeared). The blue dress in your dreams after that means that you thought you would be liberated from your dads drinking and all the trouble that it may have caused.

The point of your dreams were that you thought your dad leaving would make things better but it didn't; you miss him though you didn't think that you would; life is still tough and not much better than before he left; you feel really alone.

Hope this interpretation helps.