Well I dont know what to do.{{Advice??}?

Question

My boyfriend cheated on me. He slept with some girl.

He called the day after crying about it. I'm debating wether to stay

with him or not. Any advice??

Answer 1

Only you can decide that. I wouldn't give him another chance, and I think you deserve someone better than that. Keep in mind that if he did it once, he could again.

Answer 2

well if he cheated on you he probably might do it again. break up with him

Answer 3

Obviously, your boyfriend is immature and has a problem with commitment. He chose to cheat on you, not caring about your feelings.  Yet, he wants you to care about his feelings now.  How is it that 'only' his feelings matter?  It seems the focus is only on him (his desires and his needs).  This is probably only the beginning of his hurtful actions, and if I were you, I would think twice before opening your heart to him again.  This is more than about cheating.  This is about sound judgment, wisdom, integrity, character, selfishness, and love. He's found wanting in all! All his explaining, and I'm sorry, could never touch what it's like, to the person, who has had  trust broken.  His words of affection now ring empty.

Will time heal this? Time and maturity - perhaps!  But I would look into his background and see how many other women he has destroyed or treated disrespectfully.  And I would also see how he treats his mother.  Disrespect doesn't 'just' happen. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Check out his parents.

My advice is give him his walking papers. Set a higher bar for yourself. There are good men out there who know how to treat women - be patient and find one.  It's not the end of the world not to have a boyfriend. But it can feel like the end of the world over and over, when you have one like you've got now. Good luck.  

Answer 4

if you have to ask a bunch of strangers i'm sure you already know the answer--leave him.

Answer 5

*WELP* really it's your choice. If he *REALLY* loved you he wouldn't of cheated on you the first time. But I know it can be SOOOOOOOOO hard to breakup but sometimes the 'cheated' party waits for it to happen more then once (and .. I promise you ... it will). You CANNOT trust this dude says, even if he's crying, you can only trust what *HE DOES* and what he did was unforgivable ... I do believe in forgiveness .... but .......not in this case .... but it's your life .... it doesn't matter if you make the wrong or right choice it's up to you, and it's your life to learn from ...

*BUT REALIZE* he could be very sorry he risked losing you, and he could be upset at the fact of 'losing you' but your not an object. Your you very own precious person .......... And you can't allow people that aren't responsible with you, your emotions, your mind, your body and most of all your heart to be involved in your life in any way that they can hurt you .....

I know it hurts, and I've been there myself many times, but it doesn't matter how much you *LOVE HIM* if he doesn't love you - PERIOD

Him 'really liking you' you and you loving him doesn't 'cut it' it's going to be doomed *ANYWAY* so you should 'cut your loose now' before you get hurt *MUCH* worse.

I mean what if you catch a STD, what if you have a children or he gets another woman pregnant. *NONE* of this things belong in a relationship. *CHEATING* , I'm very sorry to say this I'm not trying to be cruel or mean, means that he felt your relationship and the risks of being caught where of *LESS* value then humping some nameless chick for a night

The *SIMPLE FACT* is that if he loved, or at least saw the potential and really respected you, he would *NEVER* of cheated in the first place  

Answer 6

wow

ur 10x better then him

DUMP HIS SRRY ***

nd plus how did he sleep with som1 while he has a gf thats so gayy

Answer 7

If you take him back you will be sending the message (to him and his friends) that cheating is forgivable in your relationship and it will be easier for him to do it a second time.  He'll think he can cry, beg and charm you into taking him back again.  In the meantime, you end up looking desperate and weak.

I wouldn't tolerate it.  Respect yourself more; he doesn't seem to very much.

Answer 8

HE CHEATED ON YOU?!!!!! DO NOT STAY WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!

Answer 9

Hi, I'm almost seventeen; don't judge.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this with your boyfriend. One of the worst things that any guy can do is to cheat. He obviously feels guilty about it, but that doesn't change the fact that he deceived you by having intercourse with an other women.

I had that issue previously with my Ex-Boyfriend and no woman appreciates when her boyfriend is cheating. My advice to you is to talk things out with him before anything. But ultimately the trust is gone! It's very difficult, however you deserve someone who won't deceive you. Talk things out with him first!

Best Of Luck Always.

- Amanda.

Answer 10

HI THERE, I AM MALE AND IF I CHEATED ON MY GIRL FRIEND THEN IT WOULD BE OVER LOL. MY ADVICE IS TO MOVE ON AND LET HIM GO BECAUSE IN THE LONG RUN HE WILL DO IT AGAIN. AND MORE HEART ACHE FOR YOU.

YOU CAN DO BETTER !!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

once a cheat always a cheat trust me if you don't have children with him or a ring on your finger then move on.... it much easier if there are no kids involved or divorce lawyers

Answer 12

That is up to you....but he has shown just how much he (does not) care about your feelings.....If it were me I'd send him packing, trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, he has destroyed yours....(and yes given the chance he'll do it again)

Answer 13

there's a chance that if he does it once he'll do it again. he did not respect u once he won't do it anymore

Answer 14

You have to ask yourself if you can trust him again?  If you cant forgive him you need to walk away.  He did not respect you in the way that he should.  He would have to gain your trust back and it's very difficult to do after someone betrays you like that.  

Answer 15

Its your choice. Personally though I believe what most people say "Once a cheater, always a cheater" and its been proved to me many times.