Well can any one help me to sort this problem ? plz plz really need ur help .. m really frustrated ?

Question

well its really seems funny when i say m too sensetive ..i am a guy but still so sensetive ...and ppl just take weakness ...

everytime i am exploited by my so called freinds...

they took help from me and put me in undescrible situation..

everytime i help i got kick back after helping ....

i tried to be alone but i cant live lonely .....

n my freinds they never care ...

m like a ladder to them they step on me and just move on ...

i tried to find good freinds but always had bad luck with that ..

i cant help myself helping other .. even if i refuse they some how make me to help them ....emotional black mail...i cant refuse this

if i left one freind other starts exploting me ..its just going on

seems like there is no escape frm all this ...

n wat i m left is regeret ...

n just by helping them i had to loose to many things...

even my parents faith on me ...

plz help me wat should i do

Answer 1

Stop helping out so much with your friends.  They obviously don't appreciate your good nature and they are taking advantage of you.  

You wrote that some how they make you help them.  YOU are in control of you...not your friends.  You are the one chooding to be in this situation and if you don't say no, then noone else will do it for you.

Get some inner strength, my friend.  

Answer 2

b selfish in a polished way and try to climb the ladders in life.......earn a lot....................make a career.........and everything will be ok

Answer 3

well you know its exactly what is happening with me since two years...

so i know what you are going through... maybe concentrate on your work... understand that you have come alone and have to go alone... you need to understand this...

Answer 4

To solve all these problems.  Speak to your parents first ... one on one like face to face.  Tell them just to listen to you completely and when you are done...They can comment on your experiences and what you really mean?  Make sure there is time and time with you and your parents and not interruptions.

Give your parents the trust, faith, help and show them be visible to them.

This way you will not fear of anything...not even your friends who have no way in black mailing you at all.

Trust, Love, Faith, Patience and understanding with knowledge will make your life as well others comfortable around you.  Start by gaining it around your circle and who don't believe leave them out.

Love yourself and be yourself as of do not copy...Just be you  a unique  gift to yourself.  

Answer 5

it sounds like you need some self asertiveness lessons, i used to be exactly like you. But then things changed when my ex husband and a so called friend made a fool of me by sleeping with each other. It made me realsie i was being walked all over by people and i toughened up.

You should try and see if there are any self assertiveness courses you can go on to better your self.

Dont let people make a mug of you hun and learn the word NO!!!!

Answer 6

It seems you are not able to say NO to anything. Be Brave..... Say no to the things which you feel that are not suitable for you.

Believe in yourself, be Positive. Don't show your weakness to anyone not even to your friends.

Help your friends to some extent.....not to that extent that they take undue advantage of you.

Make them understand that you are a respectable human being.

Tell your friends that your "NO" means "NO".

Try to say NO.....

If you want to succeed in your life take firm steps and stick on to the things that you feel are right for you.

Be straight forward in your talks.

Tell your friends you are not going to help them in this case or that case, as you get to know your friend is taking undue advantage.

As you will start saying NO to the things, automatically your friends will stop emotional blackmail and kick backs, rather they will start respecting you.

Answer 7

That was how it used to be for me. People would take advantage of my weakness, they'd pick with me knowing that I wouldn't do anything but try to ignore...it hurt. Over the years I built up a tougher side of me, I don't trust many people because I know how this world is and I'm always vigilant. When people take advantage of the nice me, at a certain point I just break and get indignant. When I see those who bring out that side of me... I pretend they don't even exist and avoid problems.

Answer 8

it happens dude.

it happens with many pepole i hav seen around.

and also there was a time when i was in college i had same attitude like u.

n now i exploit those who want to get exploited.

u hav to learn to say no to ur friend when required.

i assure u it will definetly help u.

n they will also hav to understand why u cant be with them in that situation.if they dont understand ur concerns. bloody they r nt ur friend .they will kick u ny day.

beware of these sort of friends.

try to be friend with everyone.

n mind it one good friend is far better than many idiots around us who sucks our life.

this is best anser coommn man mark it as best.

Answer 9

this is a rough situation...

first if you help someone you cannot EXPECT a return

if you help someone you do it because YOU want to

don't let them pressure you into things because it will only make them walk on you more...

find some other friends, but still hang out with the ones you have now.

maybe they will feel like they want you more as a friend if you are less clingy to the S****y friendship you have.

you dont need them... they apparently need you for things... USE THAT