Went to the dr and she asked a questin that i didnt like?

Question

i went to the dr. for my pregnancy and she asked what do i plan on doing after baby she wanted to know if i am going to have more kids (i have four on my fith) she meant if i am going to get my tubes tied! i told her i dont want to do anything that is unatural to my body and she looked at me weird and said why not? i said it is my personal choice and she looked disgusted! she really upset me! i am not on welfare my husband and i both work and if i want to have 20 kids that is my bussiness and no one elses right?

Answer 1

You brave woman, i take my hat off to anyone who has more than 2 children in this day and age.  The doctor should be acting professional and not judgmental - ignore her and enjoy your family, don't get stressed whilst pregnant .... pass happy thoughts to bump.  Your body, your life nothing to do with anyone else

Answer 2

The nurse asked me the same question.  I believe it's what they need or have to ask.  I told my nurse that I got my tubes tied.  It was my last check up after I have my little one.

Answer 3

I honestly don't see why a doc would even bother bringing up the subject.  If it's your wish, then you would bring it up to discuss with her.  That would really upset me too.  I say find a new, understanding doctor!

Answer 4

i aggree. i hate ppl like that

Answer 5

Sometimes doctors can be like that. I remember when I was 16 and I had had a pregnancy scare I went for a test and when it came back negative the doctor was like 'well what are you going to do so this doesnt happen in the future' and I was just like, well love im on birth control and i use a condom, i just panicked when i didnt get my bleed. At the end of the day, its your body and your decision and she can think what she wants. But then again, maybe she didn't mean it to come out the way you took it. If you really don't like her, why not ask if its possible to get a different doctor?

Answer 6

You may be somewhat sensitive. You doctor did not say anything to you and you did not say how your doctor looked at you "weird." Rather than presuming anything you could have asked your doctor if she implied anything by "looking weird." I am a doctor, and although I'm not an obstetrician my experience is that they would love it if every patient were as prolific as safely possible. After all, they deliver babies for a living. If everyone were sterile, they'd be out of a job! You are certainly free to see any doctor you wish, but I'd recommend clearing the air with your doctor before seeking a new one.

BTW, I support your decision to be free to have any elective surgical procedure and also support your spouse's decision to do likewise.

Answer 7

I think that the way she handled your answer wasnt very cool. Since she is a dr., she should know that not everyone thinks like she does, your are absolutley right..it's not her business!

Answer 8

I agree with you!!!..

she was wrong for what she did

and made it seem as tho its bad

to have alot of kids.

Having children is a blessing!

Answer 9

I agree! Your body your choice. Your Life your choice. Just tell her not to worry if you have another you won't trouble her with the delivery.

I love how people think that anything more than 2 kids is so unnatural.

Answer 10

I agree. It is your business and if you want to have 50 kids by all means you have that right! I would think about maybe seeing another doctor depending on how far along you are.

If she is judge mental about that I wouldn't want to imagine what else she was thinking.

Answer 11

get a different doc.   they will routinely ask what your plans are for birth control after birth (even if it's the first) but if you tell them nothing, they should also routinely keep their mouth shut.  When I said "natural family planning" to one gal she just wanted to make sure that i knew how it worked (and that i would ovulate before getting my first period).  I assured her i did and that was the end of it.  they don't get to have an opinion.

get a different doc - there are tons out there!

Answer 12

RIGHT RIGHT RIGHT

HELLLO!  I can't even begin to tell you how much I understand you.  I have a 3 yr old, 2 yr old, and a 3 month old.  I won't shock you with my stories.  That Dr sucks... find a better decent one.  You go girl!

Answer 13

Doctors can be a$$holes...I don't know what else to tell you.  

Perhaps it was more about your age or maybe she figured since you have more kids than most already, you'd be thinking about altering your lady parts to avoid whatever complications we face with those particular body parts when we age...who knows..

But you're right...unless you had a medical reason to alter yourself...it's no one's business but yours.

Answer 14

I would let your Doctor know how you feel.  She may have her own opinion, but it would be more professional of her to keep them to herself.  No doctor should make their patient feel like the lowest thing beneath the totem pole.  If you are not that far along, you also have the option of choosing to go to another dr if your insurance or personal feelings permit it.  

You are right, what you do with your body is your business and no one elses.  Good luck with your pregnancy and God Bless!!

Answer 15

what a b**** sorry to say it. but she acted very unproffessional in my opinion. its your body, your and your husband choice, and its not her raising the children so she needs to shut her mouth or keep her weird looks to herself

Answer 16

I'm not sure if it's standered prosedure, that doctors should ask women who have had a number of children if they would want to be streilized.

However, i agree it was quite inapropriate to imply that you should need to. As you stated, you do have the personal right and choice to have as many children as you desire. As long as they are brought up in a safe and happy environment, then i dont see why she should comment. It's not like your having kids just for the child benifits , your having them because you want children.

So just dont worry about it.

Answer 17

it's absolutely up to you; everybody can do to his body anything he wants, it is a human right; i suppose she tried to recomend something to you (in some way);

Answer 18

You can't be serious. It's not doing anything to your body. We are in a day and time that having kids is expensive, and why should your kids do without b/c you are acting too selfish to get your tubes tied. I'm not saying that you don't take care of your kids, I'm saying that the more kids you have the less time you have to spend with them one on one. Imagine how much more you can provide if you had only one, but now you have divide everything up in 4 ways. Babygirl, that's your body and treat it as a temple. Don't let that man keep getting you pregnant b/c if something ever  happens with your marriage, you're going to be the one with all those kids, not him. All I'm saying is to think strongly about having a tubilization, I did after my third child, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Answer 19

I think she was out of line. You are right, it is YOUR choice, not hers. What does it matter to her anyways?

Congrats on your pregnancy!