Were my actions wrong or right when defending my son ?

Question

i have a cousin who is evil and every time i see her at family reunions i feel she tries to put me down, my husband and parents think the same of her, my husband said hi to her and she ignored him that is not the meanest thing she is done to him she puts you down tells you what to do and shows off any time she gets, so i try to ignore her when i was pregnant with my son she came over to anounce she was pregnant and when she left i ran to my room to cry beause she told me i looked funny fat and that i was waisting money going to get a 3D ultrasound of my baby and since i had a one room apatment she talked and talked about the plan of how she would decorate her sons room and 6 months later she had her sisters call me to ask me where i got the 3d ultra sound , she did so many things to me after that and i never insulted her even though she is huge and she is a bad person deap down and other than her old house there is nothing else for her to show off, i have never treated her wrong and never raqced my voice at her but i drew the line when she desided to involve my son, she would always say things about my son that he ways going to be short and she would hand me her sons cloths but that hasnt happend yet because her son is allot smaller than mine and 6 months younger well the problem is that she said my son trew some thing heavy at her son but didnt ctualy hit him i dint see what actualy went down but i punished my son because i teach him not to hit but about 30 minutes later her son hits my son and she says its ok because she teaches her son to hit if some one hits him but after 30 minutes it seems to me that it wanst becauce my son had almost hit him anyways the next day i saw her again and this time i was following my son around to make sure i know what is going on, well i was told to take care of all the kids and they were about 10 kids the thing was they could not go inside the house witch i thought it was wrong because it was a hot day and they were complaining but there was nothing i could do but since my son is 3 i would take him inside the house with me to take a break from the heat but when my cousin showed up she yelled at all the kids and she would not let any of them in the house in one ocation my son tried to go iside the house to get to me and she would not let him, common sence to let a 3 year old get to his mom, he went around the house to reach me and told me what she did, she cooked for the kids witch was nice of her but she also forced them to eat by yelling at them, an ice cream truck came and she toock all the kids ice creams because she said they had to eat fist and i agree with her but when she took my sons ice cream from him when i was right there that got me mad because she ha no right to deside weather my son had ice cream of not and my son wasnt going to eat anyways so i told her to give me the ice cream since i was the one taking care of my son i had the right to deside weather he has the ice cream or not, my son was crying and all the other kids are allot older and my soin bein a toddler doesnt matter if he has his ice cream before any one else, so after asking her to give me the ice cream back and that i would take my son outside where no one saw him eat the ice crea she said no the older kids would also want ice cream, i went out side and i told my mom what had happend and my mom told my cousin to give him the ice cream and again she said no but when her mom came in she asked her so my cousin then started to cream to stop asking her and she said why doesnt the mom come and ask me for it so i went in and told her i did ask you for his ice cream and you said no, and as i was leaving she said well im not the mom and i sount be taking care of her son, she sould of taken her son out side to eat the ice cream and i went back and screamed I DID TELL YOU I WOULD GIVE HIM THE ICE CEAM OUT SIDE, AND I NEVER TOLD YOU TO TAKE CARE OF MY SON I WAS DOING THAT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO OR WHAT NOT WITH MY SON, and then she got into a big fight with her mom because she was being rude with her mom and out of no were started yelling tings, a few hours later her son smashed his hand wile playing with my son but it wasnt my sons fault and when she saw my son she called him to ask him what had happened but i didnt want her to ask my 3 year old waht had happend because he already was asked by allot of ppl and after all those questions he was confused and tired and i thought she had no bisnes asking my 3 year old what had append after she knew my son didnt know what had happend i felt she wanted to blame my son for that, im now considering not letting my son play with her son because i feel that one day we will end up in a huge fight because of the way she is, my son never fights or has had problems with the other kids he plays with, so what sould i do about it, is it my fault? i just dont like ppl messing with my son, WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Answer 1

Keep your son and yourself away from her. Don't speak to her, don't let your son near hers. It might be difficult but it will be worth it if you just don't deal with her. keep near your son, make sure she doesn't get to be in charge of him in any way. Also, it is common sense to allow children inside on a hot day, a child of ANY age is more susceptible to heat than any adult. The younger they are, the more they need to be kept cool and hydrated. If the adults are going to force a child of any age to stay outside, they have to also provide regular drinks (NOT sodas) and such to ensure they don't get sick. She was irresponsible and dangerous in keeping the children outside, for the safety of your son, keep him away from her.

Answer 2

Whatever happened is past.Just let the kids play themselves and please!please! you elders don't interfere in kids matter.Whether you like your cousin or she likes you is not the matter,whether the kids like each other,then let them play themselves.If they get physically hurt then you advice them, how to avoid that situation.

Don't be too possessive towards your son.When he reaches his teenage he won't listen to any of your words.That time it hurts you very badly.Prepare yourself for those things.Just be kind to everyone.

Answer 3

She is horrible! Sweetie, you dont deserve this. no one does. This woman is terrible to children, and unfair to you. You need to confront her, and tell her that she has treated you wrong. Tell her that you are her cousin, and that you love her, and that you hope that your kids can be friends, BUT- that if she continues to be unfair, that you will never see her again. She sounds like a bad person to be around. As a mother, you need to keep your son around bad influences like her. She is nothing special, and you need to let her know that.

Not around the kids though, of course.

Answer 4

In all honesty Babygirl, I didn't read the whole thing, but from what I picked up, now you were not wrong, but I would stay clear of the be-atch anyway before I seriously hurt her feelings or her.    God Bless.

Answer 5

Wow, what a catalogue of gripes!

Easy solution....stay away from this woman, her house, her kids and her cooking, etc.

Make your own friends and buy your kid his own clothes.

Takes 2 to make a quarrel.

Answer 6

Both of you are letting this get way out of hand. Let it go and don't bring it up again. Your letter is enough to p**s anyone off due to the length of it. Kids will be kids and from the sounds of it, so are you and your cousin. If you want to let this turn into a family fight, your going in the right direction by getting everyone involved. She shouldn't have grabbed your son by the arm though with you right there. Try to understand her point of view if that's possible and let it go.

Answer 7

If I were you I would just stay away from her she's plain mean...

You had every right To stand up for your son he is a defenseless child..

Your son needs a positive upbringing not one that has that sort of c**p in his life...

you did the right thing by standing up to her.. My sister was like that with my daughter but I stuck to her... I told her to get off her ********* broom and to leave my girl alone, her child was picking on mine and always made her cry and my child was the one being yelled @..I also started yelling @ her child to see how my sister liked having her child being blamed and yelled @... She didnt like it obviously, I just reminded her that, her child is not the angel she thought she was and my child was all of one @ the time..... My sister and I are fine now though and our children get on fine... I had to saty away from her a little while though bcoz it hurt me to see my child being treated like that... My sister got the hint came to my house and apologised for everything,,, She's not so high strung anymore ...

So the point is hun stand your ground and dont let anyone treat your babies that way, its wrong and hurtful for all parties...