Were teens and we have a baby coming plz help!?

Question

Hello. ok my girlfriend is pregnant with my baby and we are both 16. and i i just need to know like will everyone start neglecting us because we are having a baby? will anyone be supportive even tho we slipped up? i haven't told my family yet. and i need a good way to tell them. any suggestions? and we are fincanially able to support the baby so money isn't a prob i dont think. we are going to take full responsiblity. will they hate us? im just really conserned about being disowned cuz my family means everything to me. we have had so much tragedy in are family. my step dad just died and we just got back form living in england for a year. me and my brother were sexually abused my mom isn't good with guys. and my grandparent just died. so plz anyone just every suggestion or tips you have for me plz help! we just need support cuz we are worried out of are boots! im white and my girl is black if that even mattters and we are both ok in school. she lives on an air base where i used to live.

Answer 1

Sweetie I agree a baby is a good thing/  Please do not worry about what others will think.  You have had a lot of hardship and people let you down.  I went down that road and when I accidentally got pregnant it was the best thing that could have happened.  You will have this little someone who will look up to you and absolutely love you 100%.  

Begin by letting the family know what you all have been through and you know it has been a hard year...and tell them even though you are young, you are wiser than your years due to what you have been through.  Then break it down tell them you guys are pregnant but let them know you will be a man and take care of your child, you will stay in school and if it gets hard when the baby is born you can home school.  They will be worried about you dropping out but DONT you can do it sweetie.

Please be ther for your girl she will have hard times from the other girls at school.  tell her you will stay with her  adn that she is beautiful women dont think they are when they get bigger during pregnancy she needs to know honey.  Bood luck and you guys can do this.  You are so far taking responsibility and that says a lot about a man!!!

Answer 2

well with all the deaths and bad things I would think your family would welcome a baby,. but I am not normal as they say, and as far as your family meaning everything to you, you have your own family now. no one else is going to matter to you now except your baby and his or her mother. take good care of your baby's mom and your baby and yourself. good luck and just keep your new family together no matter what.

Answer 3

I just want to tell u that your really nice for not leaving your girlfriend. some people are jerks and ditch their girlfriends because they figure out they're pregnate. I bet people won't hate u but they might be disapointed.

Answer 4

That would be really scary I'm sure.  Every family reacts differently, so it's difficult for me to know how anyone will react.  My main advice to you is to please allow the baby to have life.  If you feel you can't handle a baby right now, please consider allowing a loving married couple to adopt your baby.  There are so many couples who are unable to have children, and the waiting list for an American baby is extremely long.  It would not be cruel to give your baby up.

Answer 5

you half to figure out your own way to tell them. but from what it seems they might be happy to have a new little life in your family. if the last resort comes tell them once the baby is born. trust me once they see that new little face they will forget how made they were (if they will be).

im sure they're going to be proud of you for taking responsibility.

Answer 6

I'm grandfatherly now and have had a lot of experience with this personally.  I can't stay on line any longer now but contact me if you want thru Y/A

Answer 7

first off.. youre thinking of this situation all wrong.. all i keep hearing is "we", "me", "her", "i" and "us"... if you're keeping the child, it's no longer about YOU, but about the BABY. Obviously, there are other options, such as adoption and abortion, but because you are not the only growing the baby inside you, this is not, honestly, your decision, but the decision of the mother. And that is just the truth. Should this baby be born and the both of you raise the child, you CAN do it, many have done it before you, and many will after you as well. YES, it will force you to grow up, and if you dont grow uo you will  be a bad parent. You can be a parent who was abused without ever hurting your child, and you can raise a child of mixed races happily if you love him or her. The state can aid minors to help you finish school and further your education. Raising a child is NEVER easy, no matter how old you are. But if you DO decide to raise a child, you must give up your own childhood FIRST to give your baby the best you can. Stop thinking "poor me" and start thinking "what can I do for him/her?".

You do what you can with what this world gives you, and if you accept the life you have, you can do it happily.

Best wishes!

Answer 8

If your family is understanding, you will not be neglected. Even if they are angry, I can assure you that when that baby comes, they couldn't be happier. You need to sit down and tell them both. At the same time. Taking full responsibility is great. That's very mature of you. I'm sure with all that's happened, they would be a little more happier with another entering the family.

Answer 9

My suggestion for telling the family is to tell them soon and be clear that you know you slipped up but you are going to work to be the parents this child needs.  Whatever you do, be honest and direct.  This shows you are trying to be responsible for your actions.  The sooner you tell them, the sooner you can stop worrying about how they will react, and the less it looks like you are trying to hide it.

As a parent, I would never hate my child for making a mistake, but I would have very serious concerns, and perhaps be a little hurt or angry that they did not act the way I would want them to, but I would be there to help them out of their problems in the best way I knew how, which may not always seem like help to my child.

Answer 10

i would just start having a convo with ur mom saying... i love u mom and u mean so much to me... then say, i need to tell u somethin very serious and i need ur full attention.

then when u have her full attention say...

my girlfriend, _____, and i were spending some time together the other nite and we slipped up. i dont kno what got into me but we r having a baby.  :O:O:O:O:O:O:O:O:O

Then if she starts crying or gettin angry just say mom, u didnt teach me or not teach me anything wrong, its just we slipped. we didnt mean to do this and im sorry if ur angry but it already happened. then hug her and say, is everything ok? i know u r going through a rough time rite now so im sorry if i hurt u. then the rest is totally up to u!!!

Hope I helped! GL, Sammie

Answer 11

Hi, I'm also a pregnant teen 16 and my fiance is 17. You will always have support whether it be on the internet or friends. You should tell your family as soon as possible though. You need a familys support. No one will hate you some may be dissappointed but over time excitement of a new baby in the family will set in. Its not an easy road to take trust me but it will be worth it.Do stay in school. Please dont drop out. Educaution is the most important role to take on for your little joy.,

Sounds like your doing pretty good if your financially stable.

An actual birth cost about 3000 to more dollars including all the ultraasounds and birth.If you dont have insurance its hard to pay plus getting everything for your baby.

Just relax though and take it a day at a time.

Heres a website im apart of and i love they answer questions and its like a big support system. its www.dailystrength.com .You should check it out.

Answer 12

Contact me (email im) if you need any answers etc. I had my son at 14 and I'm 18 now :)

Much love and luck to you..

Be the best daddy you can be :)